Post # 46
I was in that exact same situation a few years ago. I waited 10 or so days and opted for a D&C. I was still having morning sickness and just wanted it all over with. The D&C was quick and painless. It took a month and a half to have my next cycle.
Post # 47
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
I’m so sorry you had to go through this. Hope you have a fast and smooth recovery. You said she, was she a baby girl? Sending healing thoughts.
Post # 48
candy11 : On Friday I had a really good talk with Darling Husband, and I told him that I wanted to do something to remember the baby by. Because my way of coping was to come home from the ultrasound and throw away my pregnancy tests, throw away the big paper mache dinosaur egg I had made for our announcement picture, reset my pregnancy apps, cancel our registry, text everyone that knew I was pregnant. 🙁 so I didn’t want the baby to feel unloved, or like I was trying to forget it.
So he asked if I ever felt like it was a certain gender, and I really had thought the whole time it was a girl. He asked if I’d had a name in mind and as soon as he said that, the name Clara popped into my head. I told him, and he started bawling. He said the name in his head had been Claire. 😱😭 it’s like we both knew who she was the whole time. 😭 so then he asked me how I wanted to do our little naming and goodbye ceremony, and I had a mental image of releasing one of those floating Chinese lanterns, and he said right away “you know, I’ve always wanted to do one of those floating Chinese lanterns” 🤯🤯🤯 it was so weird. I just stared at him with my mouth open. So that’s what we’re going to do, maybe Friday night. And we wanted something where My son could be involved too, because he was so excited and I want him to be able to help say goodbye to his baby sister 😔
So we don’t know for sure, but in my heart I thought it was a girl. And it’s much easier for me to say “she” than just “it.” Plus the fact that we were both basically thinking the same name was just too special to ignore.
Post # 49
I’m so sorry for your loss. I think having a little ceremony would be a great way to say goodbye. How very special that you and your husband had the same name in mind. I had 2 miscarriages after my first son and went on to have 2 healthy children later. Give yourself time and rest. Hugs!
Post # 50
Just for anyone in the future reading this, I wanted to add more about my recovery. Just in case it helps anyone else.
So I had the procedure Tuesday, and had taken one ibuprofen after. I took one more Wednesday morning and then stopped because I felt awesome. There weren’t any cramps to take pain meds for. Wednesday and Thursday I felt pretty much back to normal, very very light bleeding. I couldn’t tell anything had been done at all really.
However on thirsday evening, maybe 4pm or so, I started getting some pain on my left side, radiating into my hip. Since it was just one sided I assumed it was constipation pain from the anesthesia. But as the hours went on it got more and more regular, the pains were coming closer together and it had moved to my entire lower abdomen. It was radiating into my hips and lower back, and they started coming every 2-3 mins. It got SO intense. They warned me about “cramps” after wards, but these were legit early labor contractions. They were extremely rhythmic and timeable, and would start small and then build to a peak and taper off like a contraction. They got so painful I was writhing around, not able to talk or move during them. Once they were gone I was fine but WOW. I kept saying “omg I feel like I’m in labor again.” Right when it was getting most intense I passed a large clot, which was terrifying. The doctor never warned me that could happen with a D&C. I tried a hot shower but it barely helped, a heating pad didn’t touch it. I was having terrible contractions every two mins for 3 hours. Finally the inruprofen I took kicked in, and I was able to at least breathe through them. They tapered off to coming every ten mins, and then finally stopped completely by midnight. I passed several more large clots.
My midwife said as long as they weren’t bigger than an egg, I wasn’t soaking a pad every 30 mins, I didn’t have a fever, and the pain meds were helping then I could stay home but it was scary! The surgeon definitely did not warn me that could happen.
Post # 51
- Wedding: September 2017 - California
Equine_Breeder : So sorry for your loss and the pain you went through. I had a straightforward D&C in Jan and then for some reason my bleeding actually went from non-existent to period-like at the end of the first week after the procedure and I had intense painful cramps that made walking uncomfortable. Thankfully, the pain and bleeding subsided exactly a week after the procedure. My AF came back almost 6 weeks later and we’re back to trying for baby no.1. It’s really great that you are willing to share so much detail on your experience. I don’t think even doctors or nurses prepare you for what it’s like and I am sure many women will read this in the future and benefit from it. How thoughtful of you during such a difficult time!
Post # 52
zstbee84 : I would love it if it helped anyone else in the future. I definitely feel like the doctors and nurses minimized just exactly what you go through. which in my opinion is way worse than overstating it because you’re so shocked by it, and so unprepared.