(Closed) DD will not take a bottle and I have to go back to work!

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have you tried offering the bottle when she is not so hungry? It can be very frustrating for babies who are already hungry to learn to use a bottle.

Ask an experienced bottle feeder to help out. Darling Husband is likely no more experienced and just as anxious as you.

Hold her in a different position than you use for nursing. Perhaps sit her in an infant or car seat and face her while giving her the bottle.

Do you use a pacifier? If so, find a similar nipple.

Don’t try to insert the nipple into her mouth. Place it near the lips like you do when breastfeeding.

If all else fails, you can teach her to take milk from a cup, spoon feed or syringe feed her.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I never had this problem, but here’s a thought….. Have you tried giving her a bottle while you both are topless/bare skin? Maybe the close contact of skin to skin will make her feel a little of that bond she feels when she’s Boyfriend or Best Friend.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I just went through something similar with the baby I watch. It took awhile for him to get use to it and actually take the bottle (about 2 weeks but felt like a year). First of all if you are trying to feed her the bottle that may be a problem babies are much less likely to accept a bottle from thier mommy because they know where the milk comes from. Have another person try it. Don’t hold her the same way. Try placing her on the boppy looking towards you (not near your body) sort of like her legs are wrappped around your body and the bottle is between you. Give her something to hold to distract her. If its a latching problem try gently placing your hands on her cheeks and pushing them in (like making a squish face) this helps keep the nipple in the center. Heat the milk up more than you think you should like warm not just lukewarm. Try to remain calm (difficut with an angry baby) we basically tried it like once an hour for a couple days. You can also try a sippy cup – it didn’t work for me but no harm in trying! Good Luck! And don’t worry she will learn to take it – we snuck a lot of milk into cereal and food during his refusal period and he eventaully came around. But it was very sad and difficult since i was convinced he was straving! Baby phases usally don’t last very long. Now he sucks down a bottle fast and happliy. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’ve totally been there! In fact, we still pretty much are, because DS got sick and I didn’t push the bottle then, so we’re basically starting over. It sounds like you have tried a lot of the things. DS does take a bottle in a different position, and I had to be the one to introduce it to him. Now he will (sort of) take it from other people. I try not to force it. I offer it, then we play and when he gets fussy, I offer again. After 3 or 4 offerings, he will generally take it. He still won’t take full feeds that way, but at least he won’t starve.

When he absolutely refuses, we give him milk from an eyedropper. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Have you tried wide mouth nipples? Also you could try latex nipples if your LO doesn’t have a latex allergy. The woman who works in the bottle area at Babies ‘R Us recommended that and said that the texture of it is more similar to an actual nipple so babies tend to take that easier than the typical nipples. Our LO had an issue with the first bottle which was a Medela and just had the normal nipple on it-totally started choking, way too fast of a flow for her even though it was “slow flow”. But when we used the wide mouth latex nipple on the Playtex drop-ins she had had no problems and even takes a bottle from me without flinching. I know every baby is different though. I’m hoping you and your LO get in the groove quickly!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

This sounds exactly like what we went thru with our DD! After about a week of resorting to the dropper we had success with the cheapie bottles from Walmart with the brown latex nipples. These bottles literally look likelittle baby doll bottles! After a few weeks with those we switched to the Playtex VentAire when visiting my SIL and still using them today. Good luck!!! I know it is   so stressful ! 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mrsmjm:  Thanks for the update. I never knew this but that is great to know.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i wanted to report what I sent to mrsmjm, so that if someone searches for old threads on this (like I did when I was struggling), there is some more info:

So, I had tasted my breast milk before, because I heard of the lipase problem, and it tasted fine. Just yesterday, I smelled breast milk I had expressed the day before, and it smelled odd. I tasted it and it was gross. It smelled soapy and tasted like metal. Since I’d researched it before, I knew it was likely to be high lipase. We also checked a bag from the freezer, and that tasted bad, too. I have no idea why the stuff I tasted before was okay, but different women’s milk “lasts” different amounts of time, so if mine lasts, say, 4 hours, and I tasted it in that window, it would be fine.

Now, there’s nothing “wrong” with milk high in lipase, and if your little one will drink it, it doesn’t hurt them. However, that’s definitely why DS will only sometimes take the bottle–when it’s fresher, he’ll take it, when it’s been in the fridge for awhile, he won’t. And once it goes “bad,” it won’t change back. But you can prevent it from tasting weird. You can treat the milk by “scalding” it to 180 degrees. I do it on the stove and it takes about a minute. Then you quick cool (I do it in an ice bath) and put it in the fridge.

Oh, and also, if you discover this is your issue, you won’t be able to do much with your stored milk. I’m donating all of mine, but you can also save it for mixing with solids in a few months. Apparently if the cereal is a strong enough taste, then the off flavor of the milk is mitigated by it. Also, some people have success mixing their stored milk with fresh milk, and then the taste isn’t as bad and the baby will take it.

My milk “lasts” about 5 hours (but definitely NOT 5.5 hours). So my 300 stored ounces are on their way to the milk bank 🙂 (I checked with them, and they are happy to accept high-lipase milk.)

 

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@mrsmjm:  So glad to hear you’re making progress!!! It’s hard to see them so upset but you’re still giving her lots of love and being a great mom for her! Good luck-hope it keeps up!

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