(Closed) De-Bridesmaided! WTH (very long)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1267 posts
Bumble bee

Oh you poor thing!  When people get married, your friendship strength gets tested.  Honestly, and I know she’s your friend, this girl sounds like a giant Bridezilla and I think your life will be much less stressful by not being involved with her.  Good luck to you!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you should call not email or text because emails and texts are very hard to understand emotional wise, you may have read what she said but got a different take than what she was saying, she may have really been sincere and with emails and texts you cant feel that. Call her tommorrow and let her know that you are sorry about her decision but your respect that becuase her friendship is important.  Remember she is probarly just a stress as you may be you both are brides, and brides including me would like everyone to be make every event , every meeting and we do hve to realize our friends have lives too. So just call her I jope this helps

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Honestly, you sound like you will be much better off without all that drama.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wow. I agree with @missfireslayer. That doesn’t exactly sound like the best friend in the world.

Of course, jealousy and wedding-induced narcissism are most likely at play here, but, that’s just ridiculous.

I would call her, tell her that you think the nature of your friendship has changed, and not for the better, and explain that you are unsure about whether or not to even call it a friendship?

Post # 8
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424 posts
Helper bee

wow the part about her sending you that text message by mistake made me go ”ooooooo”

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you dodged a bullet. Just enjoy the rest of your planning stress free. 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

crazy! she is obviously so wrapped in herself right now she doesnt realize what she is doing! and will possibly regret it later. seriously, i cant believe people get like that! i had to hound my BMs in the last week before the ordering deadline to try on dresses. as stressed as it got me, i never once considered taking them out as being BMs!  one Bridesmaid or Best Man really pushed it and ordered her dress too late and had to put a rush on it.  but even then, had she not got her dress on time, i would have thought it sucked, but she would have simply been in the wedding wearing whatever lavender dress she could find off the rack! (of course i never told her this, lol).

but anyway, i am sorry you are going through this.  like others have said, you are probably better off without the drama!

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think its better for you anyway to just focus on your wedding. I think when weddings are close together its a bit tricky to be someones bridesmaid right before or right after yours. There will be conflicts because you have different priorities

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

its truly sad how you think you know someone until a life chaning event,via… wedding, funeral, baby. My motto is people dont change in time they will show you the real them and the real them is who they have alwasy been, but we never see it becuase it was never directed at us.

 

Focus on your wedding be happy and enjoy being a beautiful bride

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

sounds like a demanding unaccomadating high maintenace bitch to me  fu** the fuss.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sounds like being her bridesmaid would be alot of drama. She probably did you a favor. Enjoy planning your wedding!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

WOW…consider yourself lucky if she’s like this now imagine what she’s belike closer to the date. She’s probably right had you continued in the wedding you probably would have hated her by the end causing the end of your friendship.. regardless, it always sucks to be hurt by a friend.

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