- 4 years ago
Hi there, new to this and just need to vent a little. Getting married in August.
I have never been close with my dad, he left my mum a long time ago after cheating on her numerous times. I haven’t see him in years, the only contact we’ve was via text. While planning my wedding I wasn’t sure whether to invite him or not, but I decided to invite him and give him a chance. A month after my RSVP date I text him to see if he was coming to the wedding, all he said was is your mum bringing someone and could he bring someone too.
Me and my partner had already decided no plus ones but since my mother was bringing her boyfirend I asked him who he wanted to bring? If he had been seeing someone for a while I would consider it, but knowing him he would pick some random women he’d be stringing along, and I didn’t want one of hes stupid flings at my wedding. He didn’t reply so I text again with the same message later on that day. He replied saying it doesn’t matter, I’m not coming anyway.
I never let it get to me before but knowing he was willing to miss his daughters wedding just because he might not be able to bring a plus one upset me. Not because I wanted him there but because I wish I had a dad who cared enough to be there on my wedding day. I feel like im talking to a child with him, and i know he is sat at home sulking because he cant get his way.
I dont know how to deal with him anymore, I dont really want to. I don’t dislike him, I nothing him. After this I won’t have another thought of him. I just dont know what to say back to him to let him know that I’m done. No more chances. Or do I just stop now, don’t even reply. Part of me feels he doesn’t even deserve a reply.