Post # 1
So I was at work yesterday, and out of the blue I had a freak out about the amount o stuff NOT done yet! I have gotten what I thought (until yesterday) was a good amount… the dress, the venus, the food, the colors, a photographer (also I have all the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses picked out and own everything to make them, but no construction yet, also I have been busy desinging all my own printed material)
… but then suddenly i got the list of stuff that is not done blow over me… a cake! Flowers! Decorations! a DJ! Nothing is printed… no Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses yet, AHHHHH!
so reality check: Am I as far behind as I feel? anyone else having mini panic attacks about not having enough done yet?
Any Idea how I can get back on track?
or about what kind of decorsations I can use (since that is the thing I am stumped about the most) (we are doing dark teal fabrics and orange flowers (I think))
thanks Bees for helpful tips and comments!
Post # 3
Seriously, you are FINE. I got married October 30th last year and for real, I did almost all the stuff you mentioned in the last couple months. I booked our DJ the week before the wedding! By March last year, I had a dress, a photog and a venue… thats it. Take a breath and step away from the ledge. You can and will get everything done and you’re really not behind.
Post # 4
You have time!!!
I got married last October and engaged last February, and we had plenty of time to accomplish what we needed to. You’ll be fine!
Post # 5
I didn’t want to feel outrageously overwhelmed as the wedding got closer and closer…so our wedding is in the last week in September and all of my vendors are booked.
I much prefer it this way! Each vendor has little odds and ends that have to get done still like DJ: Decide on music for ceremony/dances, Florist: Go to shop and pick out specific ones, etc. There’s still LOTS to be done, but contracts are at least signed with all of them so I know they aren’t going anywhere and I can get everything else accomplished with them in my own time.
Post # 6
People plan entire weddings in the time we have left. You are fine!!!
I try to tackle a few things at a time. I write out a notecard and hang it over my desk with a deadline on it. I also don’t hesitate to give out tasks to Fiance with deadlines attached.
Post # 7
Um, you are fine. So breathe and relax. 🙂 Take one task at a time.
Post # 8
Did I mention I am planning the wedding long distance? there is a three hour dirve between where I live and where he lives, and we are getting married in his town not mine. (as it is I only get up there one weekend a month)
Post # 9
@kryje003:I am planning a wedding two hours away. It can be difficult, but you just need to make the most of your time while you are there. Also, if he is there or if his family is there, why don’t you ask for their help? I am getting married in my hometown and utilize my mom to make phone calls or stop some places for me.
Post # 10
The internet is awesome and helpful for the long distance stuff. 🙂 Our venue is about an hour away, and I’ve been heavily reliant on email to get a lot of my questions answered.
And it does sound like you have a lot of the big stuff already out of the way. You listed maybe 4 things that are still in the works? 4 or 5? Which sounds like so much more when an exclaimation point is added to the end. 🙂 It’s not TOO much though and if you take it one task at a time, that’ll make it easier.
Also…are you doing all the planning on your own? Do you have friends or family who have offered (and are willing) to help? If you do, I suggest delegating a bit. I got into the mindset of being able to do EVERYTHING on my own, and once reality kicked in, I asked for help, and it made a lot of things less stressful. Though, if you feel like you’re going solo on this, it seems like a more than do-able task. Just take one thing at a time. 🙂
Post # 11
@kryje003: i’m getting married a few weeks before you, and i think you’re ahead of me=) i have my dress, the photog, venue, florist, table decor, band (need band & dj, all day affair!) and… well, i guess that’s about it! i have no caterer (and i need 2!)! no baker, no dj, no tent/tables/chair rental, nothing printed, no mua, no hair stylist, no bm dresses (hell, i’m debating scratching the whole wedding party!), no veil/shoes/jewelry, and guess what…. IT’S GOING TO BE JUST FINE! it will all get done=)
try making a timeline. i think you’ll find that you can break down the projects you have left over the course of the next 6 months with minimal pain. i have moments where i get flustered by all the things i still need to do. then, i remind myself that no matter how much i prepare ahead of time, things will go wrong, it doesn’t mean i should try to be on top of things, but it means i shouldn’t punish myself for things i feel like should have done already. either way it wouldn’t have been flawless, but it will be perfect, because i will marry my best friend and celebrate that with our nearest and dearest=) take a deep breath, you’re ok!