(Closed) Dealing with a complaining groomsman…

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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26 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Petunia123: Venting on that is totally okay! I would be super frustrated too, and I cannot stand when people go along with things and then talk behind your back about it!

I think you’re right to just let it be. Did he buy the suit already? If so, I’d just let it go and think that maybe he just feels the need to vent about something, and that’s what he’s choosing. If he says anything directly to you or your Fiance I would just approach it calmly and say “if you weren’t comfortable with it, or you didn’t like it I really wish you would have said something, we would have accomodated you” because like you said, you checked each and every time there was a decision!

Post # 4
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Some people just like to complain. He said he was ok with it to you guys and that’s what matters. Try to ignore the rest; you’re not being unreasonable at all.

Post # 5
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@Jenniferk6: Totally agree. Some people do just find something to complain about no matter what you present to them.

Have one of the bridesmaids say back to him, “would you rather spend $140 on something you have to give back?” Take your FI’s advice and not worry about it. He’ll get over it, and if he ever says something to you about it, punch him in the face! 

Post # 6
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Grr, that’s frustrating. You’ve been more than accommodating, he just sounds like a whiner. I’d let it go, but if he does say something to you, I’d follow @nmeyer01:‘s advice, then @2PeasinaPod:‘s 🙂 He’s a big boy, he can suck it up.

Girls buy dresses that aren’t always flattering to them, pay to alter them, and wear them once. Why would he bitch about buying a suit rather than renting one? If anything, he can sell it when it’s over to recoup some cash…dumb boy.

Post # 7
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26 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@indibee: EXACTLY! girls wear some of the most unflattering dresses just because it’s what the “bride” wants (which is why i got my girl’s budgets and let them pick out their own!), he can’t buy a suit that there’s a 99% chance it looks great on him? silly boys!

Post # 8
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Try hard not to let him hurt your feelings… it sounds like you’re not the only girl he has issue with.  You’re being WAY more accommodating than most couples by verifying multiple times that the whole wedding party was ok with ideas/prices. 

If you want to get the word to him that you’re hur tby it, mention it to one of your BM’s– this guy should know that his actions are hurting others that are close to him!  If you don’t care if he knows, keep it to yourself and know that even if he’s pouting in pics, at least his clothes will look good Wink

Post # 10
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@nmeyer01: Same here. I said ‘here’s your color, fabric, and length, go crazy.’ They can pick their own budget and feel good about their choice. The guys are buying suits (whether they think their’s is already fine, they won’t ever wear it again, etc, etc) because it’s only as much (if not cheaper) than renting a tux.

Plus, there’s no “oh crap, did all the guys pack up each piece of the rental tux to return at Noon the next day” hassle. It’s their suit now. Throw it in the corner, lose the tie to some hottie on the dance floor, I really don’t care 🙂

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