- Mrs. Louboutin
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
I’m having a bit of a problem that I could really use some advice on. I’m 12 weeks pregnant and have spent the past 3 months either exhausted in bed or puking. Needless to say, I’ve been very sick and it’s been pretty miserable. A close friend of mine is getting married in two months, which is where I need some advice.
The bride was the Maid of Honor in my wedding, although I am not in hers. She is having one attendant, who is a family member and lives out of state. As such, she did not attend the bridal shower, will not attend the bachelorette party and will not be here until the wedding. I am picking up the slack for her.
While the Bride knows I am pregnant, she doesn’t seem to be very understanding of the fact that I have been very sick. She tasks me with things to do – I had to drive her mother and her to the shower over an hour away and then her mother expected me to load up my SUV with all of the gifts and transport them back to her house after her 4.5 hour long shower. Fortunately, her fiance showed up to transport the gifts (thank goodness). She has given me some smaller tasks, but also has tasked me with planning the bachelorette party.
One part of the party will be hosted at my house and the next day is an all day drinking pub crawl. I have tried to explain to her that while I am happy to plan this and host Friday night, I can’t commit to being there on Saturday due to my morning sickness and overall low evergy level. Rather than be grateful I am helping with all of this, she is upset with me.
I don’t know what to do at this point. Even though this isn’t my responsibility, I want to help her, but she just doesn’t seem to understand how sick I have been and how much work it is to just do all of these things. I haven’t even been able to clean my own house because I’ve been so sick
One thing I do want to add is that while she was wonderful in planning my own bachelorette party, on my wedding night, after Darling Husband went upstairs at our after party a bit earlier than I (he overindulged a bit), she pulled me aside and started yelling at me telling me that I was a bad wife because I didn’t go upstairs with him. I wanted to spend more time with all of my friends who I hadn’t seen in months who flew in from out of town! Her boyfriend, now fiancee, went upstairs to wake up Darling Husband and bring him downstairs. DH thought I was horribly sick and was very upset they did this. To this day, I’m still embarassed and she has never apologized (her fiancee called my Darling Husband and apoligized for his part, which we both appreciated). I know this is unrelated, but it has bothered me more recently as some of these other issues have come up.
Her wedding is only 2 months away and I will not be taking on any additional tasks, but I also don’t want to put a damper on her wedding glow so to speak. What would you do?