(Closed) Dealing with a neurotic bride

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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193 posts
Blushing bee

@SweetHoneyBee: Is she a good enough friend to tell her shes being a nutcase? if not just ride it out. If she gets too obsessed find out what is really freaking her out, may be more to it than the right shade of colour.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Cut her some slack. Unless there is more to the story, it doesn’t seem like she is being rude to any of you and doesn’t really deserve to be called a nutcase. Planning weddings are STRESSFUL and the stress can consume the best of us. Take her out for a drink and offer your ear, and your help. I am sure it would help relax her to take her mind off of the wedding, and simply offering your help could make a world of difference.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

There’s probably more to the story even though you don’t know. If you are really that good of friends you should talk with her and see if there is anything else going on or maybe ask her if there is anything you can do to help find this color? Can you get a color swatch or something that she is trying to match and then look into dyealbes? Does she actually have a piece of the color she wants or is this a “vision”? If it’s a “vision” then she’s not going to like anything no matter where she looks.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just be supportive for now. If the color is that rare she will eventually give up and try to use another color.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Maybe some one made a comment about the other shades. For example, when shopping for a wedding I’m in soon- the little lady helping us said that she liked the “new red” shade better because the other one looked like “hooker red”…..guess what color the bride wont consider now?

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@SweetHoneyBee: Maybe ask her for the swatch she was using and see what you can do with it? Unless you have already tried? Sorry wish I had better advice. Being totally obsesive with my royal blue color I can relate to her but I had a swatch and eventually found the same color for the dresses but I had to spend a lot of time looking.

Post # 12
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142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

maybe you could suggest she looks for a steamstress to make the dresses? that way it can be the exact shade and style she wants and she can relax I understand budget might be a factor but its worth looking around

 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I def went a bit nurotic with the Groomsmen ties.  I wanted the one exactly and no shop seemed to have more than like one of them and I was short and it was a huge fiasco, but I got my ties.  Let her keep hunting…If she asks if you found anything that shade you can say no.

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