- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
He is a SLOB.
I am a neat freak. And it drives me crazy. He insists that he is “messy” not “dirty,: but NO. He is DIRTY.
This is probably the #1 thing we fight about.
When he opens a wrapper, he drops it on the ground and just leaves it there.
When I sit in the passenger side of his car I always end up being in a pile of trash. I hate it and he knows it. He will fix it for a day, and then it is back to me needing to sit in his trash.
I have tried EVERYTHING. I have with held sex, I have offered sexual incentives, I have played the whole “I won’t do x, if you clean up your crap.” (EDIT: His Idea, not mine. We had a heart to heart about it at one point, and he said he genuinely didn’t see the mess, and that linking it to sex would help him.) Nothing, nada, zilch. It Just makes him a very crabby slob.
And then I end up going on my weekly cleaning rampage through the house and just clean up all of his grossness. He helps by “going to the dump,” but COME ON.
He has said that he literally doesn’t see the mess. I believe him. He walks into a dirty room and doesn’t notice the dirtiness.
I know that I am a neat freak, and that I am going to need to compromise to a certain degree. But He needs to compromise too.
Any adive, or success stories on helping guide men in a neater direction? It drives me bananas