Dealing with an international wedding

posted 3 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 2
409 posts
Helper bee

LindseyinAtlanta :  I had an international wedding, so I understand your concerns. But for me it was the other way around- wedding in my own country before the US one. The way we got around it was, we only did the religious ceremony and party over there, and then the legal marriage in the US.

Anyhow, no one should pressure you into ANYTHING! Don’t let this wedding become about them, and not you. There is absolutely no way someone could make me get married FIRST in a foreign country, which is not my home. Stand your ground, bee. Just explain to them for work, legal and other reasons, it’s impossible to make it happen that way. 

Just a thought, could you make it happen a few months earlier in 2018, for their peace of mind? I understand they might want it to be a bit sooner, and not feel completely left behind and ‘a second thought ‘ way after the western wedding.

But, if not possible, don’t worry about it. Be firm. 

Post # 3
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

When is your U.S. wedding? I understand their point of view that it shouldn’t be too distant from the legal wedding because it sort of defeats the purpose. I don’t know how religious/traditional they are, but the reason they might be pushing for an earlier date is because in his family’s eyes, you guys will be living together before you are “actually” or “religiously” married according to their customs.

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