(Closed) Dealing with baby-related anxiety

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you’re going to have to find a way to accept that none of these things are within your control. Worrying comes with motherhood – it’s up to you to decide how much you let it take over your life.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m sorry that you feel anxious – that does not sound fun at all.  Sometimes people think of the worst possibilies as a way to prepare themselves for the chance of things not turning out smoothly.  Most likely, if something does not turn out as planned, it will be far less troublesome than the worst-case so it will seem not as major.  I hope you can find peace with your worries.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My strategy is threefold. 

One, is to take a deep breath and ask myself, “Is scary situation your reality right now?” And then realize no, it’s not. Then, it usually involves me figuring out a) what IS really going right now because sometimes anxiety about hypotheticals is really misplaced anxiety about something else which CAN be addressed. 

Two is to do the old psychology trick and to get myself to envision my fears. It sounds counter-intuitive, but what the technique is about is getting you to realize that your imagination regarding what could happen is generally worse than what the reality would be. It also will help you to remember that many people can and do handle tragedy all the time and that tragedies in ones life do not mean you’ll never experience happiness thereafter. As the Buddhists say, “if you can’t change your fate, change your attitude.” Some of the most inspiring, generous, and yes, happy people in my life have also had quite a bit of hardship. You don’t have a choice of what life dishes up; you ALWAYS have a choice as to how you react to it. 

Finally, accept that worrying is part of parenthood, as crayfish said, and that it’s OKAY to worry. It’s great that you are a “happy-go-lucky” person, but don’t think you have to be happy go lucky all the time. Sometimes it’s worth giving yourself permission to experinece discomfort–it can cause more anxiety if you’re anxious about feeling anxiety in the first place! Just recognize the difference between a little worry and going crazy and take a step back. 

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