- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
Hello All –
New here to Weddingbee! I’m currently dealing with a childish Office Manager. I’ve been employed with the same company for over 2 years. When I first started this position, she was just leaving for Maternity leave and came back the next following year, however, before she left she had it out with another “office manager” who took her position. However, the person who took over her position ended up quitting the same year. Anyways – long story short, me and said current OM got along, we chatted, we hung out, we texted, we were friends.
I was sick for over a week with a contagious virus and could not attend work, so I worked from home. I came into the office one evening to send out documents as they were cutting the deadline and I felt extremely guilty for not doing it and leaving it in the lap of someone else, well needless to say, that action did not sit well with her and she freaked on me. I apologized profusely because in my mind I was doing it out of the goodness of my heart. (I take my work seriously and I have dumping my responsiblities on others when they have no idea what it was that I was doing) everyone has different job responsibilities here.
Fast forward the confrontation, I asked if there was anything we needed to hash out and talk about because I did not want to come back walking on eggshells. She said “no worries, we’re good, etc” so I said OK and work resumed as normal. When I came back to the office after my sickness, it was like walking into an awkward tension where you can literally cut it with a knife, everyone here can feel it. She’s treating me differently, she won’t even look at me! She speaks to everyone else normally, they tell stories, laugh, joke and here I am black sheep and she’s acting like I do not exist unless she gives me a task.
I’ve asked her again face to face and said I think there is some residual tension and I would like to discuss it with you and she brushes me off saying that it’s in my head and that everything is fine. I know I’m being oversensitive and I am because I thought she and I were friends and that is why I am hurt. I’ve even voiced that to her and so now I’m just working away and doing my job as I normally do. I just don’t know what else to do, should I just leave it as is and never bring it up again? I’ve brought it up to my superior who is above her and they advised that it is between herself and I and that we should discuss it amongest ourselves, but how can I fix it if they’re unwilling to even be open to that idea?