(Closed) Dealing with Dad. And StepDad.

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i guess one option is to split the walking down the aisle…. birth father at the beginning and then halfway down your stepdad

do your vows include the “who gives this bride” maybe they both can answer

or, one dad walks you down and the other dad answers the “who gives this bride” questions

yes the “who gives” is old fashion and possibly offensive but it might get you out of tight spot


Post # 4
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Another option (other than the split) is to have them both walk you down the aisle together (one on either side)? Or walk down by yourself!

As far as the father/daughter dance if one wants to do it you probably would offend the other one – so one could start dancing with you and the other could cut in half way through and finish the dance!?!?!

This is a happy time for you it shouldn’t be super stressful – what do you want – do you want a father/daughter dance? Do you want someone to walk you down the aisle?

Post # 5
5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have my dad and step dad as well. Both are walking me down the aisle, and both get half of the father daughter dance. Normally I would do 2 dances, but I didn’t want to drag that part of the reception on for too long.

Post # 6
484 posts
Helper bee

I agree with Future Mrs Martin, have them both walk you down the isle. Obviously both men love you so just ask them to do it together. I bet they would be totally ok with it.

Post # 7
25 posts

My fiance’s cousin had both her father and step-father walk her down the aisle, one on each side, and it was perfect. Growing up she had planned on having her mother walk her down the aisle. Unfortunately her mom passed about a month after she got engaged. She choose not to do a father-daughter dance and danced with her brother instead.

Post # 8
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

my dad and stepdad will both walk me down the aisle if i ever get engaged lol! i think it is great to incorporate both of them since they have both been in your life and both love you so much.

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