(Closed) Dealing with DH's Depression (a bit long)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My Fiance suffers from depression as well, I know how difficult it can be watching the man you love so down and trying to find the right medication can be a roller coaster. I don’t have any advice as such but if you need someone to talk to I’m just a pm away!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

In our relationship, I’m the one with the depression.  It’s really hard sometimes, because I know that my emotions don’t make sense, but I can’t seem to process them differently.  I’m currently starting counseling, because while I take medication now (Welbutrin XL), I don’t want to take it forever, and I want to have children someday.  I need to learn some techniques to pull myself out of it.  FH is supportive but doesn’t understand depression and gets frustrated that he can’t fix it.  Just be patient, and add some prayers in.  It’s a tough road, but your relationship will be stronger if you allow yourself to grow in the trial.  Saying a prayer for y’all! 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Depression is a difficult thing to deal with at times, I’ve been there with my fiance. He was diagnosed a few years before we met and it’s a constant battle. Sometimes there are ups and sometimes there are downs. It’s hard to be strong sometimes when the man you love is going through it.

Is he seeing his doctor/psychiatrist regularly about changing his medication again? It’s hard to find the right balance with medication…some of them stop doing the job they are supposed to or cause other health issues.  

The biggest piece of advice I can offer you, is to find support for yourself as well as your fiance. Be it a counsellor, a support group for families/spouses also dealing with a loved one’s depression, or even a close friend or family member you can confide in when things get rough or you don’t know where to turn. Also like a PP said, if you need to chat ever, or are having a rough time of it, you can PM me too. πŸ™‚ Don’t struggle in silence ever with this stuff. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I would suggest finding a new psychiatrist. Anti-depressants have undergone some major overhauls and there are many newer ones available than just Prozac.  Most of them have side effects at first but those do taper off after a while.  I have absolutely zero experience with ADD or Ritalin so I’m not even going to hazard a guess there.

Also, alternative practitioners are a great resource too so perhaps looking into that is an option?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@anothersmith:  Agreed, I would definitely recommend a new psychiatrist.  Depression/anxiety often times require more than just meds… so if he has someone to talk to, a professional especially, it could help.

Keep your chin up.  You are clearly a fantastic wife and partner to stay by his side despite the challenges.  πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Like newbee, I am the one that suffers from depression.. he has his own issues, but is much less outwardly depressed than I am. I know its hard, and frustrating, but even if he doesn’t show it, your support means everything to him.. sometimes you just get stuck in a rut, and the meds stop working and you can’t see any way out of it.

As others have said, there are other meds out there. I know for me, its taken a lot of trial-and-error to get things back to ‘normal’ and even then I still falter. Just continue to be there for him, and it will get better. Wishing you the best of luck, and I am here if you need to talk.

Post # 10
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Newbee

In My Humble Opinion it sounds like he needs therapy.  My fiancee has ADD, and doesn’t take medication.  He swears by a book called “Feeling Good.”  Maybe start there?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@I_did_it:  Thanks for the book rec. My Fiance battles depression/anxiety, and CBT really helps. I just bought the book πŸ™‚ Thank you!

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