Post # 1
So I need a little support, and I’m having a hard time finding it elsewhere. Even though it’s klind of off-wedding topic, I know I can always turn to my bee friends :(. The story is, I did something I was really super proud of. I poured my heart and soul into a themed engagement shoot that I thought was truly very unique (I should mention I’m a photographer so I was the one planning/shooting this session). I put 30+ hours of prep labor (not including shooting time) $700 of my own money + donations from industry vendors into the shoot. The couple spent $300 as well and poured their hearts into it and we worked on it for 2 months. My husband and I built an entire set out of a pile of wood, tape, and paint from home depot and one too many cold November nights on my knees working on this even sent me to the ER with a pinched nerve. I had never done anything like this before, and planned to send the finished product to a specific blog, where I know similar-type shoots had gotten a lot of exposure.
The shoot came out amazing, better than I could have ever hoped, and I submitted it to the well-known wedding blog I had had my heart set on. I knew there was a possibility the shoot would be rejected, but what I was not prepared for was in their rejection email they said they couldn’t feature it because another photographer had done a shoot with the EXACT SAME THEME as me and they had JUST featured it on their site the day after I submitted mine. This blog being the most popular I can think of, I know even if I get mine featured elsewhere 1.) This other photographers shoot is going to get so much more exposure than mine, and 2.) If I wait much longer to get it featured, mine might actually start to look like a rip off of theirs now! and 3.) If I had just submitted mine as soon as it was finished instead of getting sidetracked by other work I should have easily beat this other photographer to the punch. The worst part is, this other photographer didn’t put NEARLY as much effort into their shoot as I put into mine and it’s not as good IMO, but it doesn’t change anything. I feel like mine will never see the light of day, and I’m having the most impossible time getting over it. I don’t know if there is anything anyone can say to make me feel better, but I think I’d be super grateful to anyone who took a crack at it :/
Post # 3
Ugh that really really sucks. I hate it when timing just comes and bites you in the a$$. I say submit to other blogs ASAP, I mean it sounds like with the amount of work you put into it people are going to realize you didn’t throw it together overnight to one up the other photographer. Plus, people who are looking for inspiration photos will definitely love more than one shoot to look at! AND great photos are great photos. There’s no such thing as bad publicity right? I’m sure you’ll get people contacting you for more info no matter what! Just keep on plugging through it. I’m a strong believer that everything happens for a reason 🙂
Post # 4
Thanks Bakerella, I believe that too. It’s just hard to see the reasoning in this one just yet. I keep thinking maybe its just a lesson in not trying to be unique. In this industry, it’s pretty much impossible, so maybe I just need to accept that 🙁
Post # 5
I guess this was too off-topic for WB 🙁
Post # 6
I’m dying to know what the theme was and what the backdrop looked like!
Post # 7
@PassionatePhotoLady: It’s not off topic at all and I can totally understand your dissapointment !
You know, I would love to see some pics? I’m sure they are amazing !
Everyone has something that they are proud of. For me, it is my writing. For years people have asked to read my book but I kinda kept it my own for as long as possible. I finally relented and gave it to 3 persons I love and trust. None of them read it and it’s been almost 2 years ! They said they were super excitd to read it but never did ! lol
So you see, as long as you are proud of yourself, that’s all that matters because you will be able to carry that pride with you forever. No one will take it from you ever !
Post # 8
I completely agree with Bakerella! It sounds like you worked really hard on the shoot, and there’s no way anyone could think you copied another shoot so quickly with so much effort put into it! I wish I could say it better, but really, Bakerella said it better than I ever could.
Post # 9
Can you have it featured in a local bridal magazine? That will probably get you more clients, anyway!
I would still try for smaller wedding blogs, though. I know for myself, at least, I go here and maybe a different blog once a week or something. I think a lot of brides have blog-loyalty once they find one they like, so they won’t even know about the other photographer’s shoot.
I’m sorry this happened, though, that really sucks! 🙁
Post # 10
No, definitely not off topic. A little bit overnight though, at least in my time zone. 😉
That does suck. I think it’s the sort of thing that can happen in a lot of fields and it’s so frustrating because you KNOW you worked hard on this original idea and now you’re afraid people will think you just copied it and all that work has gone to waste. Which it may or may not… having not seen the two shoots I can’t really tell how similar they look, but I suspect you brought your own eye and style to it so even if the themes are similar yours may still look original and stunning.
I love jo.lee’s idea to try to get it featured in local wedding magazines/local websites though.
Post # 11
If you think yours is better, you should keep submitting it! You didn’t rip him off after all, you don’t need to act like you did.
You’re right though- being unique isn’t always possible- but you can be better 🙂
Post # 12
You’ll still get great exposure on other blogs. After all, that one photog can’t service all the brides that fall in love with them – they won’t be in the right part of the country, or won’t have the time. Having fabulous pics out there is only a plus, and brides won’t be looking hard enough to compare it as a “ripoff” shoot. Only photogs/industry pros see enough/judge enough to see those things. Most brides just see pretty pics/talent.
Post # 13
Aww, thanks everyone! I’m trying to focus on wedding magazines, but they are really awful with not responding AT ALL, so I don’t know if my emails are really even being received/considered. The bride for the shoot actually did post it on Weddingbee, but I’m not sure if I’m allowed to share the link to that thread or if it would be considered self promotion? Obviously I don’t want to just post the other photogs link.
@ItalianLady: I can’t believe no one read your book! That’s awful 🙁 how did you get over it? Did you submit it anywhere for publication?
Thanks again everyone! I think it would help if you suggested any blogs or magazines you might follow/read so I can see if I’ve submitted there already. The problem is, major publications dont like to share, so the first one you get featured on has to be good because no one will take it after that.
Post # 14
How did I get over it? I focused on the fact that when I read it, it still makes me cry. (in a I’m-such-a-hopeless-romantic kinda of way). Besides, my sis and friend looooooved it (the only two people who did read it). That’s kudos enough. Still trying to get my husband to read but he hasn’t read a book in his life, lol !
Post # 15
I’m so sorry! That’s a bummer. 🙁 Good luck in your hunt! Here are the blogs/mags I have read:
Style Me Pretty
Snippets and Ink
100 layer cake
Elizabeth Ann Designs
The Knot magazines
Martha Stewart Wedding
In Style Weddings
Post # 16
@Miss Damask: Thanks! It’s hard to say how popular some of those are, but I’m aiming for something popular, because once it’s posted on one major blog, none of the other major blogs will take it so you only get one shot!
@ItalianLady: I think you learn a lot about who your real friends are in that type of situation. I’m sure your book was fantastic, Enough said 🙂