Post # 1
We are inviting a small number of couples – neighbours on our street – to the evening party portion of the wedding only.
Is it ok to invite the men to the Bachelor party? The ladies will not be invited to my bridal shower, unless they plan a shower themselves for me. The background is we live in the house where my fiance and his ex-wife lived before they divorced so he has history with these couples, however I live the reality that the women are still great friends with his ex. though they are still very nice – I just never see them, am not invited to girl’s nights etc.
It would be more fun for him to have some of the men at his bachelor party, but awkward for me (and them) to include the ladies at the shower.
Thoughts? The best man is one of the neighbours who has since moved to Edmonton, but will be back in a few weeks to celebrate so I need to get email addresses out to them.
Post # 2
That’s totally fine. I invited a girl to my bachelorette party but her boyfriend is not close with my husband, so he didn’t go to the bachelor party. My bffs did the same for theirs. I don’t see a problem with it!
Post # 3
If the women are pleasant to you but don’t socialize with you, invite you out with them etc, then it isn’t necessary to include them in the shower, especially if it will be awkward for you. But if your Fiance has been good friends with the men for years & would enjoy them being at his bachelor party, by all means invite them. You’re not excluding the women from the evening portion of the wedding, which they are invited to attend as your neighbours- I would be fine with this if I was one of the neighbourhood ladies and my SO was invited to the bachelor party.
Post # 4
It’s totally cool for him to invite the guys to the bach party and you not invite the ladies to the shower. I think everyone will understand the situation and probably wouldn’t be expecting an invitation to your shower anyway.
Post # 5
Its perfectly acceptable to not invite ladies that were close with your FI’s ex. Our best man’s wife is best friends with my boyfriend’s ex-wife, and while I like her as a person, we’ve never been that close and I do not feel comfortable inviting her to my shower/bachelorette.