Dealing with insecure coworkers

posted 3 months ago in Career
Post # 2
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Busy bee

 Sorry but are you 15? This entire post is so immature. You think she’s jealous and insecure. Okay, get over it. You’re making a LOT of assumptions in this. Your attitude is probably coming across in person even though you think you’ve been respectful and professional. 

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

khloemichelle :  I’m sorry but I think you’re reading a lot into things. When I don’t respond to IMs immediately, it’s because I’m busy and it doesn’t require an immediate response. Not because I’m jealous. This reminds me of that meme where the woman is laying there imagining all the reasons why her boyfriend is mad at her or cheating or sad or whatever, and he is just wondering why his motorcycle wouldn’t start. You’ve made up all these scenarios in your head about her motivations but what about your own?

ETA: What exactly did you google that brought you to this conclusion? Do you mean stalking her social media, or internet-diagnosing mental health conditions? I’m confused by the googling statement.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

You sound immature, inexperienced, and unprofessional.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

khloemichelle :  I don’t think it is odd at all that she repies faster to the higher ups than equals. Pretty much anyone would do that. Making your equals wait isn’t going to get you in trouble or cost you your job – taking a long time to answer your boss might.

Nothing you brought up points to her being insecure, and it’s kind of weird that you’re googling your coworker’s behavior. 

As to how to deal with it – just continue acting professional towards her. That’s all there is to it.

ETA: No, the immaturity comments stem from googling your coworker’s behavior and assuming she’s jealous and insecure, and now the way you’re reacting to people pointing that out.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

khloemichelle :  I mean, it might just be her personality. Without seeing her slack messages to your other equals, it’s hard to say if it’s something about you or just how she is. Some people are just harder to work with, and there’s really not much else you can do other than just remain professional, treat her like you’d treat anyone else, and not engage with any snark or attitude. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

khloemichelle :  “every message that comes from other people- usually the higher ups- she’s always ready to reply instantly” — This is normal. If my boss’s boss pings me, of course I’m going to respond quickly. I have rules set up to highlight emails from VIPs, and when I put myself on Do Not Disturb, I have a list of higher-ups who can still get through to me. This is normal, acceptable, and professional.

What does that tell me?” — That she knows how to prioritize. You are not as important as a vice president or the CFO. I’m not either, it’s nbd.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

khloemichelle :  So then she doesn’t like you and/or respect you. And from what you have written here I can kind of see why. You sound like the office know it all. They usually sit around telling anyone they can how jealous and insecure everyone else is whilst in reality they are a showboater who doesn’t work as part of the team.

 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

khloemichelle :  You are not showing yourself in a positive light. Good luck in the grown up world.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

khloemichelle :  At this point people are judging you on your poor attitude in your replies, not the situation.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Are you sure it’s not you that’s insecure? I’m seriously wondering 

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