Dealing with milestones after loss of father

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Post # 17
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9524 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

sorry for your loss and a tough year.

my father passed away unexpectedly 6 months before i met my husband and right before my career really started taking off.

i’m sad he never got to meet my would be husband (we;ve now been married 7 years next month), he never got to meet my children, he never got to see me excel in my career.

last month was 10 years since his death. 

my husbands mother passed away when i was 20 weeks pregnant with our first child.

at our wedding, we said the mouner’s kaddish (we are jewish) to honor both our fathers.  my husband’s father passed away when he was 22 years old.

Post # 18
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57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

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@bluebonnetbee:  Congratulations on your engagement! I agree, with your family and friends advice of no to waiting.

 

Personal experience summarized, my father was very ill for 3 years, and I think me and my boyfriend were waiting for him to get better before getting engaged but it really wasn’t going to happen… we got engaged in June 2019, and my dad died in July 2019. I was worried about going forward with the wedding, but my mum was keen for us to move foreward as it would bring some happiness to the family. 

 

Just remember, your dad would want you to be happy and the best thing you can do is cherish his memory, Stay strong bee xx… btw I’m carrying a small picture of him on my bouquet on my wedding day and I’ll put my bouquet on his grave as my way of having him with me on our day. 

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

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@bluebonnetbee:  Such lovely ideas to make your day even more special! 

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