Post # 1
I am seriously having a hard time not yelling "I don’t live and breathe wedding constantly so stop asking!"
My fiance’s mom and sister and my mom are constantly asking me about wedding decisions I’ve made. I talk to my mom a couple times a week and usually see the in-laws once a week…so this gets old! I have plenty of other things going on and often I haven’t decided anything new because they ask so frequently. They act like nothing else matters to me at the moment.
The real kicker is that its my fiance that really wants to do this whole big wedding celebration (whereas I would rather go to a jp or do something small outside and do something just the two of us). WHY can’t they ask him about the wedding?!?
Anyone else dealing with people thinking that all you want to do is talk about the wedding? Does anyone ever ask your fiance about the wedding…or are the questions usually directed to you?
I’m not a really girly type and I’m not all wedding-wedding so this is really hard for me. When I’ve said this they always respond, oooh that will change when such and such. Why do they want me to play the part of wedding obsessed bride when that’s not my style!? Stop interogating me!
Post # 3
Aww, poor girl! No words of wisdom for you here. They are probably just so excited – even if you aren’t the kind of girl who isn’t too into weddings it might just be that they are the kind of women who ARE really into them.
At least they are excited for you 😀 Hang in there sister!
Post # 4
lol yeah I am getting that all of the time. I say, well I dont know yet but ill keep you posted. try switiching the conversation up…most people take the hint 🙂 I am getting married around the same time as you but I dont have a date..i feel your pain. My prob was I tend to talk about ideas 🙂 good luck to you
Post # 5
They’re probably just trying to feel involved with BOTH of you in the process. My Aunty was a bit sad when her son and his future wife involved her with NO preparations or planning, she really wanted to help, but was just told to turn up on the day. No one ever really discussed it with her, and she ended up feeling left out. She never said anything to them I don’t think.
Post # 6
Ha, at least they talk to you about it I guess. My parents ignored my wedding up until about 2 months in advance. I got tired of it and told them it’d be nice if they showed a little interest.
That being said, too much is too much. Just sigh and go, "let’s talk about somethign else". Or, if they’re email savvy, send them email updates once a week, like I did w/ my bridesmaids to keep them involved
Post # 7
I’m sorry! I think they just care about your big day and want to be involved.
Post # 8
I totally feel you on this. Sometimes I feel like I must be pretty boring other than my wedding, because when I see people who I don’t see alll the time, the first words out of their mouths are "how’s the wedding planning going"? And this comes from people who aren’t invited. So that’s always awkward…I totally understand where you’re coming from. I think you can give them a quick summary and change the subject. And hopefully after the wedding things will die down (although probably not before the "how was it?" questions) Hang in there!
Post # 9
Bamboo — I can TOTALLY relate. It’s not my style either, but everybody talks to me about it all the time like it should be. I should just start directing them to my Fiance, since he’s the one who cares about having a big huge wedding, haha. No advice for ya, but don’t worry – you’re not alone! I just smile and say, "Eh, we’ll see what happens!" when people ask me about plans 🙂
Post # 10
I can’t relate – no one gives a crap about mine. I never realized that planning my wedding would be such a lonely experience.
Post # 11
Sorry to hear that you’re having a lonely planning experience, Laylabelle. 🙁
Bamboo, I don’t have any advice other than making a quick exit or changing the subject quickly!
Post # 12
I can totally feel you on this one. Though I love talking about the wedding, there are so many things I would rather talk about, especially to people who don’t really share my views on relaxed wedding planning. I feel silly sometimes, because I should just be glad that people are excited for me–but yes, it does get boring. 🙂
Post # 13
I am with laylabelle no one cares at all about our wedding so I really can’t give any advice other than believe me I wish I heard to much about it thatn nothing since atleast you know they care:)
Hope it gets better:)
Post # 14
This is definitely my own mom!
Basically, my only advice is to turn something wedding related (ie: yes, we chose a DJ) into something not directly wedding related that could be funny to talk about (do you remember any songs from FI’s childhood/your wedding/the past 30 years that guests might find fun or hilarious?).
Post # 15
I try my best not to discuss the wedding unless i have to- there has been tons of times that I have gone out simply to get my mind of the wedding & its the first thing people want to talk about. Seriously, the first comment out of everyone’s mouth lately is " OMG, The wedding is in XXX days!" you ready? Can’t they ask me something like, the wedding is in XXX days, can I help you with something so you or just say nothing about it to me. Seriously, i KNOW how far away my wedding is – they dont have to remind me – as the freakin knot sends me those stupid reminder emails. argh.
Ok, sorry had to vent like you. Had no substantive advice to give on that one – but I feel you. Even my own mother has forgot I am in law school and I have to study on the weekends before the wedding however she insist to plan wedding things during those weekends ( like DIY stuff) after I have been beggin the entire summer that I have to get everything done before the semester starts again.
Post # 16
I’m the third out of sisters to get married, so no one gives a crap about my wedding. If my mom does talk about it, it usually has to do with me planning things around my nephew’s nap or something. I’m just like ‘Whatever!"