- 5 years ago
Please tell me if I am out of order here. I have a ‘friend’ who has sent me 5 messages on FACE BOOK, basically giving me the emotional blackmail script!
FIRSTLY I have not even sent my invites out yet! It’s stil SEVEN MONTHS AWAY Her message came out of the blue, I have simply said BE PATIENT as I have a very limited guest list and I am hoping that because I am having Destination Wedding wedding or getting married in Dubai, where I live that I may be able to invite her, as some ppl may not be able to make the trip, but just waiting in initial FAMILY feedback. I’ve explained that I have a 70 PERSONS guest list (small wedding) and a large family/circle of close friends here in Dubai too. MY fiancé and I have 150 alone in our family! I was very nice in saying that I really have to consider my immediate family first and that she should respect that and be patient
This girl, hardly keeps in touch, yes I worked with her in the past and she has visited me ONCE in 5 years, but she is banging on about that fact that she invited me to her wedding, albeit through a face book message! Difference is in her culture they have MASSIVE WEDDINGS and invite everyone and extended family/friends! In my culture we don’t, unless we have an unlimited budget and want that, which I DONT!
The truth is she is pissed that our mutual friend is coming. The friend that was my old boss for 5 years, the friend who keeps in touch, they friend who mentored me into becoming a success in my feild if work, the friend who I have a connection with, the friend who I consider close! She heard that this friend has already booked her hotel and flight to Dubai.
The fact that she has been so insistent and rude in her way, even after I have tried to explain nicely and this has made me lose my cool! The last message I sent her, was basically telling her to take a flying jump
I am sorry, but I do not need this right now! I would understand if she was a close friend or family member, but she is a distant ‘friend’ who I talk to once in a blue moon and she thinks because she invited me to her wedding (Which I could not attend as I was given two weeks notice), that I owe her an invite to mine :S.
Not only that, but what is it with randoms at work, giving me the pushy behavior too!? They all seem to be from the same culture too? Is it just a cultural thing? Seriously, one person even said if I did not invite them to my wedding, they would never speak to me again! I don’t even hang out with the gu
I mean I am flattered that my wedding seems to be the talk of the town, ha-ha, but I really don’t think that I should have to accept this sort of attitude!
THIS WAS HER LAST MESSAGE TO ME!:: I mean REALLY?: “rio i still invited u to my wedding it hurst to know that u cant invite me to urs ive known u a long time fine i told u on facebook mine was a rushed wedding in a diff country i didnt get invites to send till one week b4 i went i tthought i was being nice by telling u in advance i just think t htas really sefish take care have a great life”
What do you thinK?> X