Dealing with post-wedding sadness

posted 5 days ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I totally get it. I get post planning blues after events or vacations I’ve planned. I love planning things, so I usually always have something I’m planning. Sometimes I’ll even plan hypothetical vacations I know we aren’t likely to take..at least any time soon.  But I know that if the occasion ever arises I’ve already started the research! Surely there’s some little project you can focus on? If not..create one for yourself! 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Start planning your next trip! Or research a hobby/activity you would like to do. I think coming back down from any emotional event will take some time, even happy ones. Gotta redirect your focus and all that. 

I felt like that after house hunting a year+ and was feeling disheartened towards the end. We finally got our house but after closing I still cruised the real-estate sites daily lol it basically became a habit. I feel the same might be true for wedding planning but what do I know? We eloped so I never had a lot of time to plan a major party BUT we’re thinking of eventually throwing an anniversary party in maybe 4 years-who knows what life will be like then 

Enjoy your new hubby and bask in the glow of being newlyweds! I’ll be over here still trying to sort my house decorating lol  

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I think I must be the only one to have felt RELIEF after the wedding was over. It had been looming large for so long, with so much to worry about. It was just a weight off my shoulders and I was happy to go back to being a “regular person.”

However, I DO understand needing something to look forward to. So I agree about immersing yourself in planning your next vacation, or take up a new hobby and get involved. You just need something to take the place of focusing on the wedding.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I can totally relate! Totally agree about taking up a new hobby or planning a fun trip!! We are shifting our focus to planning to buy a home, so it’s been an adjustment going from SPEND ALL THE MONEY to SPEND AS LITTLE AS POSSIBLE haha.. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

Definitely plan a fun trip! Then you’ll have something to look forward to. Before I was engaged, I thought wedding planning would be fun, because I love planning vacations. Well, it was fun for like a month and now it’s not. I can’t wait for the wedding planning to be over!

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2019

citizenerased14 :  I completely understand. I was confused why no one told me about post wedding blues either! My wedding just happened and I have this void of nothing to plan for or I find myself re-planning my wedding when it won’t happen again. 

I have managed it by keeping myself busy. I also flag all Instagram ads that were about weddings to stop reminding myself. 

I agree with the others that you should find a hobby or plan the next big thing, as a temporary fix until you move past the wedding blues. 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

That is why I can say that the big wedding itself is not needed. Better to do a little celebration with good emotions. But from such a celebration will be only joy

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