(Closed) Dealing with the loss of a friend.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t really know what else to say, I’ve never lost anyone to suicide/drug abuse but it sounds like your friend was a good person, and this was a terrible waste of life. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Chunkyswifey143:  Did you go to the funeral, or will you be going?

I’m one of those people who can only accept loss when it’s made ‘real’ to me…and in the past, that’s usually by way of going to the funeral and coming to terms with the reality of the situation.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Chunkyswifey143:  

so so sorry for your loss.

i been there this past january with my uncle,he was only a couple years older then me,i was upset with him over something,i wanted to tell him i loved him and i wasnt mad,but i couldnt find him.then he went in to a coma from herion and we lost him.so i know how you feel.

i lost quite a few family members because of drugs.and i have a few still out there on them and im scared everyday that im going to get that phone call.one thing i now know,no matter how much you are or arent there they are going to do what they are going to do,and it usually doesnt end well for the drug user.

please dont beat your self up,there was nothing you could have done or said that would have changed the outcome of what happend.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Chunkyswifey143:  I am so sorry that you are having to go through this.  I also lost a friend to suicide almost 9 years ago.  We weren’t as close as it sounds like you and your friend were, but we grew up together and I can’t remember life without him in it somehow.  Suicide is a very strange thing for those left behind to deal with because there really isn’t that closure that you get when someone dies of old age or an illness or even a car crash or something.  They took their own life and you’re left wondering why and what could you have done, etc.  There is nothing that you or anyone else could have done, so if your mind starts to go to that place, tell those voices to shut up!  The best thing that I did was surround myself with friends who were coping with his death and just be together.  Sometimes we would talk about the good times we had with our friend and laugh together and other times we would all just cry together, but we shared that common bond and I think it was therapeutic for us to just talk and get it all out.  I’m so glad to hear that your Fiance has been so wonderful and supportive.  If your healing process is anything like mine was, you are going to definitely need someone there to help you with your rollercoaster of emotions.  I will definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers.  It’s a tough road to walk, but you will make it through it.  I now cherish the sweet and fun memories of my friend and rarely think about the way that he left this life.  I choose to remember the good 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee

@Chunkyswifey143:  I’m so sorry for your loss. Suicide is so hard to deal with because you wonder if there was something you could have said or done – but I assure you that you couldn’t have known, you couldn’t have changed it. Most people don’t make their plans known because they don’t want people to try to talk them out of it. I lost my cousin to suicide, and he gave no hints at all. Suddenly one day, he was just gone.

Don’t think for a second that he didn’t know that you loved him – of course he knew. There are friendships where the words aren’t needed – you just know, and they just know.

Take care of yourself, and if you’re not coping, please talk it through with a grief counsellor.

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