- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
Our ceremony site was in a park, our guests were standing, and where we actually said our vows, was in a circle with benches surrounding.
We had our parents, readers, witnesses and flower girl and ring bearer in the circle with us.
My Mother decided that she wanted to face me to see me, so she suggested the families switch sides. So his family stood behind me, and my Mother stood behind him. (They were all supposed to sit, but they didn’t)
Well….this is where the problems come into play. Because now the photos that we’ve seen so far and the video, are on me more than him, which consequently are showing his Mother rather mine in most of the pictures.
My Mother now she feels like she has been erased from the moment. I’ve tried to tell her that there are beautiful shots of her walking me down the trail, beautiful shots of us post ceremony and at the reception, but she’s fixed with the idea that she made this big mistake and it’s like she isn’t even there.
Now, meanwhile, pre and post wedding, HIS Mother threw a fit every time there was a detail that she didn’t know about. So much so that it was really disruptive to us and caused A LOT of family drama.
I’m kind of done with all of this. The day was about us, and our love, and our Mothers have just created a lot of me, me, me drama.
I don’t know what I’m really asking for, but does anyone have advice on how to distance yourself from this? I mean, I can’t change it. What am I supposed to do with this information?