(Closed) Dealing with the regret of a long Engagement…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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40 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2007

I feel ya!  I waited about a year and a half, and that was a long time to me!  You could celebrate, just you and your Fiance, each month on the date of your wedding…like your ‘negative 7 month wedding anniversary,’ or ‘negative 2 month wedding anniversary,’ just to keep it fun and motivating for the both of you…or at least for you!  Maybe go out to dinner, or just do something fun and different (maybe no wedding planning) that day…

Post # 4
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747 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

oh you’re not alone, my wedding is not until may 2013 and i haven’t started any  planning just looking at dresses online. I have put deposit down on everything besides that i want it to be here already, like can it be a couple months away nooooo i have over a year and all the thinking of the future planning makes me go crazy at times too. :/

Post # 5
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833 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I too had a long engagement and at times felt the same way.  Try enjoying this time as you will only be engaged for such a short period compared to your actual marriage.  Trust me… The time will fly!!

Post # 6
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2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

FH & I have been engaged for over 3 years, and when we get married we will have been engaged for 4. I know it seems like it’s going to be FOREVER, but believe me — you’ll hit a mark where time will just start FLYING by, and you’ll be so glad you chose the long engagement!

Post # 7
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2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Right here! Fiance and I had the same issue…but then it got even more complicated. We got engaged in April of 2010, and wanted to get married that summer but it would be too tight to pull it off that quick since we were getting married in Mexico too (my family is there) so we decided on Summer of 2011, to give our guests plenty of time to save and take time off. 

But then we met with our priest to take care of the requirements (Catholic stuff) and Fiance had to get an annulement. Which they said would take a year to 18 months and they could NOT guarantee it would be completed in time for us to be free to marry by summer 2011. I was DEVESTATED!!! Since it wasn’t an option for us not to have a church wedding, we ended up having to push the wedding out to Summer 2012. 

Man, I cried over this for a long time, I drove myself nuts for the first 10 months I’d say, just wanting to be married already. But now, I’d say I’m more relaxed with only 86 days to go, I just can’t wait. 

I’m definetly OVER being engaged, I’m so done with it. I have friends who are gettin gengaged now and I’d love to just be marrie dalready so I can focus on helping them, etc.

Yes, I wish we could have gotten married alot sooner, and yes it sucks to wait…the only silver lining I see, is that after so much anxious wating, our day will be that much more anticipated and amazing. When I think about finally reaching those church doors, I don’t know if I’ll be able to stop myself from sobbing down the isle…the sweet relief of having come that far, might be too much for me! lol.

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