(Closed) Dealing with unreasonable family…..(long)

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2641 posts
Sugar bee

Hmmm.  I s dressing in Bridesmaid or Best Man colors and trying to “outdress the bride” two separate issues?  Trying to connect the dots, because them wearing yellow or black, doesn’t outdress the bride.

I don’t know why they didn’t want to cough up the money to be BMs.  Could they have had good reason?  The bride wanted them to be BMs, originally.  And now have parts singing, and being hostesses.  Even though they aren’t BMs, they are still part of the wedding.   I don’t see a huge deal with them wearing the wedding colors.  They are sisters, are in the wedding.  It might look nice to havethem coordinated, and make for nice family pictures. 

If the bride doesn’t want the whole family wearing black, can she ask them to at least wear a shade of yellow?  Perhaps they can wear a draker shade to compliment, but set apart from the BMs.  Also, maybe she (or you) can work with them, go dress shopping, to make sure tht their dresses are not more formal than the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses.  Perhaps they’ll be happy wearing a similar style but in a shorter length etc.

Do not let them process down the aisle as if they were BMs.  (They had their chance.)

Post # 5
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hmm, maybe come up with a “secondary” color for the readers/singers to wear. That way it’s not yellow or black, but still sets them apart and gives them a special color (maybe that will satiate their need to be in the spotlight?). Assuming the wedding is in the summer, maybe green or blue or purple?

Post # 7
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would flat out ask these girls why they think it’s okay to make your little sister’s wedding about them? Because it sounds like that is exactly what they’re doing.

They should feel honored with the positions they have been given and respect any and all (reasonable) requests by the bride and groom. To do otherwise is just selfish and rude and is not what being part of the wedding celebration is about.

Post # 8
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I really like Goldilocks1107 idea about a second color for them so they stand apart both from the bridesmaids and the other guests (in addition to a pin, corsage, etc).  Although I do think these girls are being absolutely ridiculous and need to stop thinking about themselves and start thinking about their younger sister – It is her wedding!

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