(Closed) Dear 16 year old me,

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 122
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749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Dear 16 year old me, 

It will get better, Your parents will calm down and you will gain thier trust again. Do your self a favor and gain some self confidence and respect. Carry yourself in a way that gives no one any reason to talk negatively about you. Figure this out as soon as you can.

Ps. You may or moaynot be meeting your future husband soon so REALLY, figure this out. 

Post # 123
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1621 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Dear 16 year old Me,

Live a little.  You don’t need to be serious and mature and responsible *all*the*time.  

Be strong enough to ask for what you want, you might just get it.  

Learn to love and care for your body now, while it’s still easy.

Cutting your hair like Jenny Garth isn’t really that flattering, sorry.

Hug your mom and tell her you love her, even if she doesn’t do it back.  She just can’t.  Help her learn how. 

And watch your finances!!! Live within your means.  Gah. It’s a mess to clean up later.

Never forget: you’re beautiful, smart, funny…..let it shine. Smile often. Be a light.

Love, future Me.

Post # 124
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3563 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Dear 16 year old me, 

The day you get your first car, you will find out that your boyfriend is cheating…don’t stress over him.  He may seem great now, but he eventually becomes a drug addict.

The next few relationships you will have will help you figure out who you are, and who you want to be. I won’t tell you any other details because you will need to go through it yourself to become the person you are today.

Don’t screw up in college, the student loans you’ll have to take out because you partied to hard and lost your “free” financial aid, will be a pain in the ass to pay back.  Take your butt to class!!

Oh, and that scrawny guy you meet while walking your dog, he IS your type, and although the relationship may start out a bit rocky, don’t give up on him.  He already knows he is going to marry you one day (he told your soon-to-be best friend that the day you met), and that’s a bit scary for his 21 year old self to realize.  He’ll come around when he believes he’s lost you for good. Follow your heart and give him another chance, it will be the best decision you have ever made.  (And don’t cook so well for him, he won’t stay scrawny for long!)

Love, 

Your 29 year old self

Post # 125
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482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Dear 16 year old me, 

Slacking in math and chemistry actually WILL be a source of major annoyance when you’re in your late 20’s, just get a B and that will save you a ton of trouble. Upgrading math 11 is a thousand times more crappy at 27 then when your 16.

Also, don’t put so many of your marbles in that guy’s basket, in a couple of year he fucks you over anyways, so just bone other people and enjoy yourself. 

Stop being such a bitch-face to your Mom! She is the only person onthe planet who will always be on your side and champion in your corner. So stop putting your dad on an undeserved pedestal, you don’t know it yet but he is very mentally ill. He’ll be in an dout of your life for a very long time, and he’ll likely never be this night and shining armour that you’ve been imagining him to be. So love your mom, she’s awesome.

Take whatever money you can scrap together and put it all into Google investments, trust me.

Post # 126
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8036 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@figgnewton:  Tanning beds are just awful. I wish they’d ban them!

Dear 16 year old me, stop being such a bitch to your mom. She doesn’t deserve it. She was there for you when your dad wasn’t.

Post # 127
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2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Dear 16 year old me,

Keep the fearless and the reckless side, but seriously – study once in a while.  It won’t kill you.  I promise, you won’t miss out on that much by actually doing classwork once in a while.  You already did the calculations for the minimum amount of homework you need to turn in to maintain an A, so just fill out the stupid questions already.  Don’t stress about your boyfriends.  There’s more where they come from, and you won’t find the right one for quite some time anyway.  Just keep on having fun.

If you remember nothing else, in 2 years you will be innundated with credit card offers.  I don’t know what drugs were involved to make you think signing up for over $10K of credit was a GOOD idea, but sweet fucking christ on a minibike, throw those offers away!!  It took a decade to pay it all off!

Love,
Your 31 year old self

Post # 128
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12246 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Dear 16 year old me-

Your boyfriend is gay. Really. You’ll find out in a couple of years.

When you meet a dreamy older guy with a pony tail, RUN THE FUCK AWAY.

Watch out for guys named “Kevin”, and definitely don’t sleep with one.

As a matter of fact, just stop dating until you’re 20. Trust me, shit gets ugly.

Also, you know how you don’t want kids?

You’re married and pregnant at 23. And you are SO HAPPY.

From,

Future You

PS- No seriously, ponytail dude is going to beat the crap out of you. RUN, GIRL. RUN.

PPS- Kevin is going to tie you down and try to do some pretty gross fetishist stuff. Don’t go there!

Post # 129
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@figgnewton:  This was a really great idea for a thread. +1

 

Dear 16 year old me,

Anything and everything your parents ever said was true. Always listen to them. They’re our heroes.

All of those girls who think they’re better than everyone else in school, and talk about you behind your back, ignore them. Karma will come for them.

That boy that you just started dating will be the best thing that has ever happened to you, your high school sweetheart, and you’ll marry him in 7 years.

Any and all of the little squabbles you get into with him, your parents, or friends just let them go. It’s not worth it. Move on. There are many more important things to worry about.

Your life will turn out to be absolutely lovely.

Sincerely,

Your 22 year old self.

Post # 130
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297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Mrs_Amanda:  “One day you’ll grow out of the awkward phase and be a better person for being a late bloomer in life.”

This! 100% 

Some of us are like a fine wine, only getting better and better with age 😉

Post # 131
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258 posts
Helper bee

Dear 16 year old me,

 

The next three years will be the hardest and lowest point of your exsistance, horrible things will happen to you, you will attempt to run away from your problems by moving across country, and the horrible things will just follow you. 

While I want to tell you what and who to aviod I wont. I would love to spare us the pain we went through but I know that all of the bad is what shapes our life today, and it is SOOO worth it. We wouldnt be with our wonderful Fiance and you would have never met your Maid/Matron of Honor. 

 

But what I will do is give you advice on how to cope. Please dont shut people out, if you are going to make it you need them and in 6 years when you are planning your wedding you will be heart broken that those people are no longer in your life. 

 

And most of all you just have to be strong, you will think that you are so broken that no one wants a girl who has odd break downs and panic attacks, but one day someone who you pushed away and ran from will find you again, he will put the broken parts back together and in a few short years you wont even recognize that pale skittish girl. 

 

You will be strong and confident and happy, dont be afraid. 

 

Love your 22 year old self 

Post # 132
Member
2742 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

Dear 16 year old me,

This place your in and the places you’ll go wont be all sunshine and rainbows, but love yourself because you’re worth it. Know that I wouldn’t change who I was, or what I did. The culmination of bumps in the road made you who you will be. The struggles and hurt will make you not only strong but thankful. Remember to never give up your sense of wonder it is who you are, or your kind heart through the hurt. You will find love, and you will learn to love yourself. You will learn how to truly love, and that life is amazing. You will still be sick but you’ll have answers and not only will you make peace with those answers you will fight despite them and be an inspiration to many.

16 year old me you have a tough road ahead but it will be worth it. Be true to yourself and know you are going to be amazing for so many people some day. The world is not fair, but you will get to an amazing place in your life. That place may not be the places you dream of but in many ways the peace and happiness will make it better than anything you could have dreamed of.  I know there will be times where you wont believe what I’ve told you here but just keep swimming, and looking up through it all there are wonderful days ahead.

 

Signed,

32 year old me

Post # 133
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2742 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

@BrandNewBride:  I just want to say your letter made me laugh the “dont go there” had me howling. You might want to add “This is not some 50 shades of grey novella you’re in, oh wait that hasnt been published yet and you have a better personality anyway”

 

Post # 134
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12246 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@dewingedpixie:  Haha, I could only get into the third chapter of 50 Shades because Christian Grey reminded me SO MUCH of Kevin!

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