Post # 1
Below is a column from Dear Abby today …After reading the column I know what I thought. However the comments were awful. The men and some women were blaming her for her husband going to another persons house.
Please read and post your opinion.
DEAR ABBY: Recently my husband, “Byron,” and I had an argument, and he took off in his truck. He didn’t return until after work the following day. He had he spent the night at our friend “Arlene‘s” house. She is divorced and lives alone.
Byron assures me “nothing happened” between them. I want to believe him, but ever since this incident, Arlene will not look me in the eye or speak to me.
I love Byron and trusted him until now. It hurts to think that our marriage may be ruined over a stupid argument. I know he was intoxicated, but why did he choose to go to her home? — BROKEN-HEARTED IN WYOMING
What do you ladies and few gentlemen think? Was it as innocent as Byron claims?
The posters were blaming her and saying of course her nagging will make him cheat. Whats your take? Is it appropriate that he went to another womans home?
Post # 3
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@TexasSpringBride: IMO it’s never appropriate to leave the house and not return for long periods of time unless you’re ending the relationship. Even less appropriate to spend the night at someone else’s house.
OF COURSE SOMETHING HAPPENED, “Byron” should have gotten himself a damn hotel room if he didn’t feel that he could go home.
Post # 4
The something might not have been physical but it will still do damage as he decided to go to the friend’s house. Doesn’t he have male friends in the area!?
Post # 5
I took issue with the fact that he drove drunk, then went to a single females house, the friend didnt call the wife to tell her that he was drunk and on her couch, because if there was nothing going on that friend would have called the wife, and I took issue with him not coming home til the next day.
Also curious as to why he thought Arlene was available unless he had been over there before and knew she would welcome him.
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Post # 7
Two words, “Woman’s Intuition”.
Post # 8
if you have to ask dear abby, you’ve already got your answer right there.
Post # 9
Honestly, it would depend on the relationship Bryon and this Arlene had. If they were super close friends and had known each other for a long time, I would give him the benefit of the doubt. Some of my best friends are guys and if I had a really bad fight with my H and didn’t want to go home, I’d consider crashing at one of their places. But if Bryon and Arlene were just casual friends, then I would find it very inappropriate.
Having said that, I do think it inappropriate to just not come home. I get that he might have needed some space, but that’s when he goes for a drive, comes home after he’s calmed down, and sleeps on the couch instead of the bed.
I can’t find any of the comments, but it’s definitely his fault if he cheated. Her nagging isn’t a valid excuse.
Post # 10
@TexasSpringBride: exactly. was going to write every single thing you pointed out. 🙂
Post # 11
@TexasSpringBride: I think the husband is in the wrong here and that something did happen.
Obviously I don’t have all the details, but I don’t think that a normal reaction to having a fight is for your husband to go and sleep at another woman’s home.
I would go a step further to say that something was probably going on between the two beforehand unless they were really close friends to begin with.
Post # 13
I voted they have something going on, but I’m not for sure it is ongoing or was just a one night thing.
Maybe they hooked up. maybe theyjust talked about private matters. Maybe he revealed secrets to her about hs marriage that make her friend uncomfortable. Maybe they are having a long term affair. Who knows, really.
Post # 14
Can’t prove something physical happened, but it seems like there’s an inappropriate emotional relatiionship here if his first instinct was to stay the night at this woman’s house after fighting with wife. I agree with others that 1) he shouldn’t have left the house for the whole night and 2) if he really had to do that, he should have stayed with a male friend or gotten a hotel room.
Post # 15
Arlene and the hubby need the beat down.