(Closed) Dear bees who are having sex with FI for the first time on the wedding night

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

So, I don’t really fall into that category, but I thought I’d reply anyway.  Why don’t you just ask him what his preference is? Some guys like like it all off, others like a trim, others like it all natural.  Just ask him what he likes & do it, if its something you’re comfortable with.  My guy prefers the landing strip over anything, so that’s what I do for him on special occasions.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I trimmed… But honestly, we talked about it ahead of time – We talked about our expectations for each other in those areas πŸ™‚ And I wore lingerie – I think that’s pretty typical πŸ™‚ But yes… I would honestly say just talk to your Fiance about – It’s easier to be open and discuss expectations than to get into the situation and realize he or you wanted something else…

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

hmm…well if you can see yourself doing this- I would go get a modest wax-not necessarily a brazilian.but definitely manicured with a hefty modesty strip…or triangle. But on the other hand, if this is the first he’s ever going to see your “region” you may want to be more natural as he will wonder what happened if you dont plan to keep it up.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@glitter86:  Then just be trimmed, shave your “bikini line” and congrats on keeping your purity:) and btw- he’s going to be stoked/think it’s fab just how you are! exciting stuff πŸ˜‰

Post # 9
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390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m with you there.  We have talked about it a little bit and I’m like you I hope he likes it.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2005

My hubby prefers all natural.  Not to be Too Much Information here but he thinks hair there makes me more womanly than prepubescent.  That sort of freaks him out.  Plus I don’t like the bumps, stubble or upkeep.  Also, he likes very specific types of lingerie so be open about it and really try to get him to tell you his fantasies.  I am sure he has pictured you in some light he may be embarrassed to admit. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree, upkeep is definitely something to consider. I prefer natural with a decent bikini-line so I can actually wear bathingsuits etc w/o any extra effort.

Post # 12
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Does he watch porn? If so, he may be expecting a bit more “cleanliness.” If not, I would  go natural but trimmed. My Fiance also prefers all-natural, but I do make sure it’s clean and not a jungle. I.E. it’s easy to get to. 

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

You should ask him what his expectations are and then see if it matches what you are willing to do.  If they’re wildly different, then you should figure otu what it is and meet each other in the middle.

That choice for me was easy though because personally for me, I absolutely hate body hair. I picked up a razor and got rid of it as soon as the first hair sprouted.  I think if I was one of those girls who knew what virgin waxing was, I probably have begged my parents for it, haha.  I knew women got hairy as they got older, so I bought and hid a razor in my room for years so I would be ready the day I would have to use it, haha.  (Yes, I know I was possibly the craziest 8 year old in the world)

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Talk to one another and prepare accordingly because honestly… it’s both of you guys first time with each other.  And why put those high expectations over that when just doing the deed itself is special enough.

And what if you go all out and he expects that to be a normal thing?

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