(Closed) Dear bees…

posted 10 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 77
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1454 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Everyone dissing this post needs to cool it. We can come on WB and complain about our FIs, our families, our friends, our venues, our in-laws… but not bad grammar on the site? COME ON. People get lazy sometimes, yes. But the bad posts we see, with ebonics, or total lack of punctuation/capitalization, or even total disregard for all spelling grammar? They are a huge distraction to the poster’s message and really should have been learned in elementary school. I’m not calling out people in their posts, but I’m not taking them as seriously, either.

Post # 78
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1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu

Due to laziness, I hate capitalizing letters when not required. It takes extra effort to hit that shift button, you know?! I’m also okay with net-speak as long as it’s…on the net. ๐Ÿ™‚ None of this silliness in formal papers or letters!

Post # 79
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1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@AudzinLuv:

Why should any of us feel the need to “call out” another person because their grammar stinks?

Like I said in my previous post, because most netspeak is borne out of sheer laziness.  Most people have the ability to write properly (or at least legibly), they just choose not to because it saves them 2 precious seconds to write 2day instead of “today.” If you post somewhere looking for advice, you want people to respond, right?  So if no one responds, save for comments about your horrific grammar, you’ll take the time in your future posts to make sure it’s legible so people will actually give you the advice you’re seeking.  If you’re forced to write in a manner people can understand, you’re going to write that way. If the poster wants their readers to take the time to craft an intelligent response to their question, they need to take the time to phrase that question in a way that doesn’t annoy or cause the reader to have to decipher what they’re trying to ask. 

I remember one poster here started a thread a few months back that no one could understand, it was written that badly. It literally read like a different language. The first 10 or so responses consisted of posters gently telling the OP that they couldn’t understand what she was saying.  Eventually, someone came in to “translate,” then the other posters gave advice.  How is the OP learning anything in that situation?  If she’s not brought to task for writing a totally incomprehensible post, what’s to stop her from continuing to write all of her posts like that, thereby bringing down the general quality of the boards as a whole?  There’s a reason why the quality of some boards is drastically different from the quality of others. 

How does anyone learn and grow when no one will give them any constructive criticism? More importantly, when did constructive criticism become a negative thing? No one is perfect, if you get offended whenever anyone gives you anything other than a compliment, how are you going to learn and grow?  No one wants anyone else to think they’re stupid.  Chances are, if you write like you’re illiterate, people are going to think you’re stupid.  So why wouldn’t you want to make the effort to not come across that way? 

Post # 80
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1331 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I realize that, babyboo, and I even wrote a comment earlier in the thread acknowledging that these are the basics everyone should know.  I’ve been out of high school and college a very long time, and I don’t remember everything I learned.  In a perfect world we would all retain that knowlege and be able to apply it constantly.  Maybe some of these bees didn’t learn it properly for whatever reason.  Maybe some of them couldn’t care less about proper grammar.  It’s not as important to everyone as it is to us grammar nerds.  Sad, yes, but also true.  I can only speak for myself here, and so I simply ask not to be judged too harshly or critiqued too often over any grammar mistakes in my posts.  I don’t consider myself having low intelligence, so hopefully those boo-boos don’t make anyone think that.  Thanks!

Post # 81
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2006 posts
Buzzing bee

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@AudzinLuv: I am so far from a grammar nerd, many of my own posts probably make the “grammar nerds” on this site cringe! I was always a math/science nerd and writing and grammar never really appealed to me so I didn’t care to pay too much attention to it. I even make myself cringe when I am speaking and catch all of my own bad grammar!

However, simple things like “lose” and “loose”, “there” “they’re” and “their”, and “two” “to” and “too” should NEVER be forgotten. Commonly used words, homonyms and grammar syntax are not hard to remember and do make one sounds less educated than they probably are when not used properly.

Post # 82
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1331 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

And I think we are all having a civilized conversation here.  Nobody is being rude.  I’m enjoying reading everyone’s opinions and understanding the reasons behind them.  I’m wondering if the bees who wrote those threads last night using the possessive form instead of the plural form have even read through these comments.  I hope they can get some constructive criticism out of all this and learn some proper grammar techniques.  I’m not really disagreeing with the majority of y’all on here.  The one point I just wanted to make is that maybe we shouldn’t automatically view them as stupid because their grammar is not up to par.  I’m still viewing this as a friendly discussion.  Am I wrong for that?

Post # 83
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7774 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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@lezlers: I normally do not agree with the things you post, but you deserve a high-five for your “wet-blanket brigade”. I agree and I also cannot stand it.

I’m more of a spelling nazi. There are some wedding related words that are constantly misspelled and it drives me nuts!

Veil is not spelled vail. V-E-I-L.

Post # 84
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1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@zippylef:

Heh, thanks.  I know a lot of my posts aren’t popular, as I tend to shy away from sugar coating and don’t give disclaimers whenever I’m about to say something that may be construed as controversial, but I’m okay with that.  There are hundreds of posters on here and it’s inevitable that some of them might not like me.  As is life. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 85
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2857 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

A few more of my pet peeves:

WHEN PEOPLE TYPE IN ALL CAPS. WHY ARE YOU YELLING AT ME?

Or when people type super-long posts without any paragraph breaks. If I see a huge block of text with no breaks, my eyes cross and I don’t read it.

Post # 86
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1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

AMEN to the all caps.  That’s a big one!

Post # 87
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2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t know if this has been mentioned, but you walk down the AISLE, not the ISLE.

I’m a writing tutor at my college and basic grammar fails drive me batty!

Post # 88
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968 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

This very much sounds like a friendly thread to me for the most part. I’m all for constructive criticism. ๐Ÿ™‚

“Its” vs. “it’s”:

“Its” is possessive, while “it’s” means “it is”.

Also, would you say, “this is a photo of I”?

No, you would say, “this is a photo of me”.

Therefore, the correct usage would be “this is a photo of Fiance and me” not “this is a photo of Fiance and I”.

I know my spelling is sometimes off, and that’s because of my fingers on my blackberry slipping into different letters. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 89
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@Jazziberry:  Thanks for pointing out “its”/it’s”, Jazzi.  I was about to meantion that one myself!

Bless the Edit button.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve posted, re-read my post and said, “C***”.  There’s still a few that get away from me, but oh well.  I’m sure y’all will forgive me for a slip or two.  Yes, I said “y’all” Surprised.

Post # 90
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722 posts
Busy bee

 Where can I buy an alot?

Post # 91
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ll admit, I’m a Math person and English is not my thing; my spelling is horrible. However, when I read these forums, (yes I do understand it’s the internet) and I’m not looking for grammar perfection, but I do think there are some writing musts.  For example, using punctuation; YES! you do need a period in your sentences! Yes you need capitalization! I know the you’re and your, and their, there, and they’re do sound the same, but they are very very different. And this is not a cellphone, you have a full keyboard at your fingertips, plz, u, r, thnx are not words.

 

Ok I’m done…

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