(Closed) Dear BFF, Stop texting me everytime your BF says something romantic!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Thats annoying. understandable

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Everyone moves at the pace that is comfortable for them, but I totally agree that your BFF is being annoying.  I’m sure it will wear of soon though.  If this is her first relationship in a long time she is probably just on cloud nine.  If it were me I’d just ignore the texts and wait it out.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

For your sanity, I hope she stops soon. Lol. I had a friend like that (I say “had” because he did not, in fact, propose quickly and they are still just dating) and I just chose to ignore 1/2 of it. I would only respond if I wanted to/was in the mood to. I don’t know what you’re even supposed to say.

We all know relationships move at different paces and you seem very aware of that yourself. I don’t feel like you’re judging her, just annoyed by her need to share it and almost brag about it. I’d just let her do her thing and ignore it as best as humanly possible. Good luck!

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I konw exactly how you feel. It’s super frustrating when other couples get ‘ahead’ of you like that. I just try to remember that everyone’s different. My SO and I were ‘just talking’ for over two years before we even started dating. Now we’ve been dating three years and still arn’t engaged. I introduced two friends of mine to each other and they were married and had a kid within a year and a half. I was jealous at first that they said “i love you” first and she got the ring first, etc etc, but there’s so much of their relationship that I wouldn’t want. They both dropped out of school whereas I’ve earned my degree. They already have a kid but I don’t have to deal with that responsibility right now (nothing against kids! I want some of my own one day, but I just like the freedom that I have now). Anyway, all that to say, just remember what you are thankful for in your relationship. Rejoice with her when things go her way and remember that your day will come too.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Aw, I’m sorry. I know it’s rough to compare yourselves to other couples. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Lol poor you. How do you think she’d feel if you told her that you find it hard to hear? Just curious if she mght back off.

If it makes you feel any better, I think they’re in the Honeymoon period still so it won’t last (not the relationship, the mushiness)

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

From being on the side of your friend (my bff had been with her bf for 8 years and my Fiance told me he wanted to marry me after 5 months) I will tell yout hat she likely feels HORRIBLE telling you, because she knows how you feel about your SO, but at the same time, she is probably just really excited that things are working out for her this time.

Not that this makes it any better, but sometimes it is nice to know from the other person’s perspective.

(And to know that when she has a huge fight in a few months you can secretly smile and be happy she isn’t always that insanely in love!)

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Also from someone on the other side, with a bff with a 9 years relationship, she may be trying to legitimize the relationship in your eyes so when he does propose you would think they just rush into it.

I suppose I’m a little guilty of her behaviour, but in my defence I was trying to prepare her mentally for my engagement that I knew would come before hers.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Maybe you should tell her this instead of posting it in a forum, since shes your best friend in the whole world… stab both of them, thats harsh even for venting. Youd probably feel better after talking to her about it.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

LOL I can relate but in my case it’s a friend and a guy she LIKES. I just remember that I am a good friend and good friends keep their mouths shut.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@sherryberry: Oooh, I’ve been that friend (the one who liked the guy). Please just be nice, it really sucks when someone rains on your parade when you are so happy about every little thing he says and are still in the “liking” phase. It’s especially embarrassing if you tell her he’s not interested and never will be, and then they end up together for 5+ years. (no, I’m not bitter at all :P) 

 

OP I totally understand how you feel and it’s ok to feel that way. Really, it would be hard to be 100% happy for someone all the time. Jealously/annoyance is just natural. I’m glad you have the bee to vent. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

You know, my best friend pulls this same kind of crap with every guy she dates. Things are always quick to heat up- and quick to end! I swear she has been “engaged” to 3 guys since last year. I can undertand your frustration, I sometimes want to smack my friend, and I love that chick! She probably doesn’t realize how much of a twat she’s being, and as a friend, you can’t exactly tell her ๐Ÿ˜›

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