- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
ugh. I love my sister, but most times, she doesn’t act like a big sister. I hate how critical and unsupportive she is.
She had always been just a little uppity and old fashioned, but she really rocked me to the core when she told me (as my Maid/Matron of Honor BTW) that she didn’t believe that people who got married outside (as opposed to in a church) were taking marriage seriously. Thanks big sis, Darling Husband and I got married in our parent’s back yard.
Anyways, last night I got a much anticipated chance to open up to her about TTC. this is how our convo went down:
Me: I get to go in to see OBGYN in May
Sister: You realize that he’s not just going to send you for IVF. It’s generally accepted that you have to TTC for 2 years before they’ll do anything.
Me: That’s fine, I don’t want IVF, I want bloodwork to find out why I’m not ovulating
Sister:How do you know that?
Me: (explain TCOYF/charting). I’m not getting my temp rise
Sister: but how do you know that you aren’t?
Me: I’ve been using OPKs and taking my temperature. Plus the spotting 5 days before AF isn’t a good sign
Sister:Aren’t OPKs awfully expensive? the spotting doesn’t mean anything anyways.
Me: No, I order them off the internet. Aunt (who is an nurse for our OBGYN) sys that it is a chemcal imbalance and thinks that things might be off, which is what I suspect.
Sister: Gone are the days of just trying and letting things happen naturally.
Seriously? It’s like a friggin slap in the face when she does this in her condecending, holier than thou attitutude.
I’m sorry I didn’t have the luxury of getting married at 23, and having boat loads of time to have babies before age becomes a factor (I’ll be 30 in Oct). I’m sorry that things worked out perfectly for your 3 beautiful children, but our parent’s spend 8 YEARS trying to have a baby before you came along. Think there might be something up with that?
I’ve been tracking my cycles since Aug. that’s nearly 8 months. I’ve done some reserach, I’ve charted, temps, checked CM, etc. I know what’s going on and not going on with my body. I’ve also spoken to my aunt about the issues that I’m having. She agrees that there’s likely an imbalance of some sort going on.
How about you be a big sister and offer some support, rather than arguing with me about everything that I’m doing to give you kids a cousin that you CONSTANTLY talk/ask me about.