(Closed) Dear Fiance….(a vent)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

AMEN!

My Fiance is very involved but as far as wedding planning and day to day life he is the worlds biggest PROCRASTINATOR which makes me the worlds biggest nag!

Post # 4
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sometimes I write my angry feelings on a piece of paper and then throw it away. It helps me be more level headed when talking to Fiance. 

Most men just don’t want anything to do with the wedding. Fi doesn’t care about the centerpieces, linens, flateware, invites, aisle decor, ect. Maybe you should ask him what he thinks is important in the wedding and then base his task off of that. I know Fiance would do a half ass job if I asked him to research florist because he doesn’t care about flowers. 

Post # 5
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

P.S. “Whatever makes you happy, Babe, I like what you pick out” is not a get-out-of-planning-free card, Babe

Post # 7
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Snowy414: The wedding industry complex caters to women. Weddings use to be simple. I think it’s just part of our culture now. Fi has said the only thing he cares about is the marriage. He would be happy getting married at the courthouse and having dinner at Olive Garden with everyone. The centerpieces, favors, rose petals, photography, tents, signature drinks, matching grooms socks to match my shoes, theme, ect are all for me. I care about the marriage, but I want the wedding too. 

Post # 8
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@Miss Tattoo: I am the exact opposite. I would love to get married in a simple ceremony and take everyone out to dinner. The wedding is for my Fiance and his family. He was forewarned that a lot of this will fall to him and that he is expected to attend all appointments and make all decisions along with me. There hasn’t been any issues with that but he thinks we have plenty of time to get everything done. Uhm. No. By the time my work calms down in May we will only have 3 months!

Post # 9
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227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Can I just say that I love you guys?! =D  My Fiance has gone from “tell me what to wear, where to be, and when to be there” to complaing that none of his opinions matter (sorry my love, tuxedo t-shirts for the groomsmen is just NOT going to happen, no matter HOW funny you think it would be!), to driving me crazy because he needs my opinion on every little teensy-tiny detail (he’s been designing our invites for over 2 months now, and if my approval isn’t enthusiastic enough when he makes one itty bitty change to them, he scraps the whole thing and starts over.  We’ll be married before they’re done!) to the point that I’d rather just do it myself!

I SO appreciate that you guys can help me laugh at these situations and make me feel less alone in this sometimes frustrating process!!

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