- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I asked a dear college friend to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, which I knew would be difficult for her because she is an observant Jew, and would have to ride in a car during the Sabbath, carry flowers, etc. After discussing it with her fiance and a lot of back and forth, she told me she can’t do it. I’m sad but totally understand.
I am only about 4 months from the wedding, though. The whole even side thing isn’t super important to me, except (and this will sound a little terrible) the guys Fiance picked could use someone to walk with so they don’t look so goofy. It is a long walk, and they are very dude like.
I’ve got three options I like for back-ups, all of whom I think won’t mind being asked last minute and I know are coming. They are:
– FBIL’s very serious girlfriend, whom I love and want to be my sister. Only problem is that I’m counting on her to escort FI’s dad and read a blessing, so she has a role I’ve discussed with her already. She is the only one I would have to tell was second choice. Honestly, she isn’t second choice in my heart, but when I made my choices she was going through a rough patch with Future Brother-In-Law. They have since moved from her studio condo to a house they bought, and as you can imagine, that has done wonders for their relationship.
– Work-besty, whom I went to school with but have really only gotten close to in the last six months.
– Darling 17-year-old cousin, who is a total sweetheart and has always had a special place in my heart. We aren’t super close (age difference), but I think she would enjoy it. I wouldn’t expect her to do anything except where a grey dress and walk down the aisle.
My other closest female friends are either involved in the ceremony or would not enjoy the role. My closest male buddy is a reader. Suggestions?