(Closed) Dear Guests, I f****** hate you. [RANT]

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

HALLELUJAH!!

 

ha omg its like I wrote this.  My wedding is THIS friday and I had people texting me asking to bring dates and two people cancel last minute after we already paid.  Never mind the people I had to track down for RSVPs.  People are SO RUDE.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

Guests can be so lame sometimes!  We had a few RSVP and then not show up at all.  And to top that off they weren’t people we wanted there to begin with!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

I am so sorry you’re going through this, but I love this letter!  I haven’t sent out invitations yet, but I’m sure I’ll have my fair share of issues such as this one when I do. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

This is why I recommend to all ladies to do e-mail or text or even Facebook RSVPs. You will waste your money with stamps and your sanity and opinion of your guests.  I am a few months post wedding, and I am still floored at some peoples lack of etiquette

Now, hopefully you are just ranting due to pre wedding stress and don’t really  mean what you say 😉 Guests are their because you want them to be their on your special day. Things do come up, and money can be tight! We think our wedding is the most important thing, but honestly people really don’t view it like that and also sometimes don’t understand the planning and work that goes into a wedding.

Hang in there!

Post # 7
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Count them as no. When they then reply yes, explain that you can not add them to the list. Their lack of response means they are a no.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Eva Peron:  She said she’s also called, e-mailed & texted them… and STILL no response.  Money doesn’t really have anything to do with it.  If 15 people cannot decide if they are going to a wedding in 2 weeks or not, then I would count them as a big “no”.  If they really wanted to come but was for some reason still unsure, they would at least phone you to let you know what is happening and that they are interested in coming. That’s just my opinion.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mrs.Firefly1:  Yeah, sorry I guess I was a little unclear. I just meant don’t even do normal invites, cause you end up having to do what she is doing now-smoke signal, email etc etc lol

I come from a rough financial upbringing due to my mother being widowed at a young age, so I know what its like to not want to just come out and say you don’t have money or won’t be sure till last minute- its quite humiliating. 

I have no idea about her guests, butI agree to just count them as a ” No”

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

AMEN dear month twin!!

We are chasing potential guests as well, SO AGGRAVATING.

Im so sorry you are stressed with this, and I hope you get your replies very soon.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Great letter! 🙂 Hope it all works out.

Post # 12
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1212 posts
Bumble bee

Damn! I  am soooo not looking forward to dealing with that. People are so rude. I would count them as a no, you’ve given them so many chances.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I can certainly understand the frustration in dealing with this, but at the end of the day, non-response IS a response.  If people haven’t responded by the deadline and still choose to ignore your requests via other means, then that right there is a ‘no’.  There’s no need to get so upset and angry at having to chase people down; simply consider them a no, and if they change their mind down the road you politely explain that you’re sorry, but you didn’t receive their response in time for the final count and figured they were a no.

 

It’s going to be okay!!!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Eva Peron:  Totally get where you are coming from.  For many years, I struggled with the money gift for a wedding, ect.  It was difficult, very difficult.  I usually just ended up not going (rsvp’d way in advance) if I really didn’t know the couple (acquaintance) and made it work somehow for my close family and friends! I just wanted to say, I hear ya!!! : )

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@KristenGettingMarried: I think what you’re saying is totally logical. However, I personally cannot discount certain guests out of the handful who have not responded that easily. Some of them I know are most likely attending, and I really want them to be there…So even though they are procrastinating and being rude…there are a few who mean a lot to me and I just have to chase them down.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MissMusic: DATE TWINNN eeek. I get what you all are saying, too. 

My old housemates made it to the top of my hit list. That and all the girls I am working with over the next few months on a senior project. 

NONE of them RSVP’d. At all. Zip. 

I tried chasing down answers but got nothing or vague crap in return. 

It’s someone’s wedding for goodness sake…. not a spur of the moment party that may or may not matter to the host! 🙁 It makes me so sad to know so many people are so rude when it comes to this. Getting an invitation means someone really wants you there, I don’t know how people justify not explaining at all or even bothering taking 5 mins to RSVP – even if it’s not in the way they are supposed to. 

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