(Closed) Dear Little Sister, step AWAY from the bleach!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Treat her to a day at the salon where a professional can work his or her magic?  And possibly tell her that if she keeps bleaching the ish out of it its going to fall out/break off?

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If her hair is being bleached on such a regular basis, I would be more concerned about telling her that she may well be taking her hair home in a bag soon. Bleaching that regularly,even if its being done by a professional, is going to creat a huuuge amount of damage, and cause a lot a breakage in the hair.Her hair will snap and break easily.  Platinum blonde is becoming really popular (here in the UK anyway) but it can be so bad for your hair.

Id approach her from the angle that in a few years she could well be dealing with hair which will be in extremely bad condition, and hope this may encourage her to pick a shade which is a little easier to maintain.

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Personally I would just let her be, but if you feel comfortable saying something to her I’d leave the whole wedding aspect out of it and just mentioned that you don’t find it flattering/are worried about her hair falling out/whatever.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

 @BothCoasts:  lol I wish! This is actualy me, still staying kinda anonymous, the lighting is dark so it looks darker/more gray in this pic than in real life:

I think hair is something that is fun to experiment with that people take too seriously sometimes. When your young, its fun to change it up. Even if it gets completely fried or falls out (yes, that has happened to me), chop it off into a cute pixie cut, it will grow back! Obviously Im biased though, Ive had my hair every colour of the rainbow. Tongue Out

 

To OP, do YOU mind her hair for the pictures. I know you said you don’t want her to regret it, but would you prefer her to change it for your wedding?

Because if my sister wanted me to change my hair for her wedding I would. I would not want to be distracting in the pictures because it’s her day.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I say see if mom can help you out with this one. She’s 19, so it’s not like you are asking a 30 year old woman to change her hair – she’s technically a “teen”. I think she will understand, and if mom does it you dont have to be the total bad guy.

On another note, bleaching my hair like that ruined it, and although I’ve been dark for many years, it has never been the same.

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

She could do cellophane before the wedding- it’s not bad for your hair, and could help make it a more natural color.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I bleached my hair VERY blonde (and I’m half Chinese, so you know it didn’t look natural) right before I finished grad school because it was the last chance I had to do it before having a “real” job.  My best friend’s wedding was that summer.  Whether she cared or not about the color of my hair, she never said anything and even said I could keep it blonde or go brown again when I asked.  In the end, I dyed it the day before her wedding because she’s my best friend I was like “Am I going to want to look at pictures of myself like this every time I visit her for the rest of my life? No!”  But, I’m not sure what you can say to her… maybe you can bring up the pictures and say how you’re going to frame a nice one of the two of you for her so she can keep it forever and her kids and grandkids can see it?  Then maybe she’ll think about it….

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

I would say have mom ask her about her hair but otherwise, just gently remind her that while she is free to do what she wants with her hair, the bleach could also have negative affects on her health and to maybe try something different next time, like letting it grow further and think about how cool it would look to have brown roots and white/blonde hair, like Jennifer Aniston.  Plus that way if it grows out enough and she doesn’t like it, well, her main choice would be to dye it all brown again. 😉

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Eh, if her friend is in beauty school, I think she could probably mention to her what over bleaching can do. Or you can mention it, but I wouldn’t say anything in the context of the wedding.

My hair was blue at 19. I look at pics and think it rocked. She may regret killing her hair, but I doubt she’ll really regret how she looked in the wedding photos, other than possibly laughing at how sill she was.

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