Post # 1
You are not New York. There is no reason why a venue located in New Jersey should charge $200/person. There is no reasonable explanation why adding a Lemon Sorbet Intermezzo should cost $5.00/person – for $5, I can get a gallon of sorbet at a grocery store.
I’m new to this and I will admit that I haven’t done too much research yet but, has anyone been able to find a location with a reasonable per head price (under $85) that has a pretty outdoor ceremony space (but not on the beach)? Ideally we wanted something like a vinyard but so far, I’m coming up blank….
Post # 3
Welcome to the Garden State. The Keystone State is similarly afflicted. So if the Empire State…unfortunately, the Eastern Seaboard is expensive.
Post # 4
Nope, this is why we’re doing a mini-destination wedding and getting married in PA! The cheapest we found in NJ was about $100/person by the time you add the tax and gratuity.
Post # 5
I’m suffering some sticker shock as well. There are places out there that are $85 inclusive or there about (try Hackettstown and western NJ). It depends on what you want. If you’re looking for something with a hotel attached or something equally convenient, you’re going to pay more. What part of NJ are you looking into? There are many vineyards in this state that are beautiful settings for a wedding. However, with vineyards, they can only pour their products (from what I’ve gathered) so if that’s a sticking point for you (it is for me), you might have to change your wants list.
Check theknot.com and just inquire at a bunch of places. That’s what I did.
Post # 6
Im am also in shock-land. We live in NYC but my parents are in Princeton, NJ so we figured it would be a great location as well as a $$ saver. And although it is cheaper than anywhere in manhattan proper (unless you have your guests take the subway and use your cousin as a photographer), NJ is definitely not a bargain.
We were originally very into the Nassau Inn, but they will be having construction from Jan 2012 and will only reopen for weddings starting Oct 2012. They have a “gold” package at $110 that includes 5 hours open bar, cocktail hour, good choice of entrees, wedding cake and cannolis. We found this package pretty accomodating and were able to negotiate it down to $97 pp and then tax/tip making it about $123 all inlusive per head. The nice part was also that Nassau Inn waived any room minimum.
Hope this helps if anyone is looking to negotiate with them.
Let me know if anyone has found any reasonably priced florists/DJ/makeup in the central jersey / Princeton area
Post # 7
Wait… you can negotiate the “set” prices? That’s awesome! I didn’t know that! (as I said… totally new to this).
@Jamiezilla: To be honest, I would be totally okay anywhere in NJ, eastern PA or upstate NY (like hudson river valley area or around the catskills). I know about the winery rules and I’m sort of okay with that, as long as the winery we choose has decent wines.
Post # 8
@RinaRoo: Usually you can negotiate, but only if you’re willing to be flexible. For instance, if you’re insisting on a Saturday night in June with surf n’ turf, you probably won’t get a great deal anywhere. But if you look at months that are less popular (January-April, sometimes November) OR you’re willing to do a brunch wedding OR you’re willing to do a Friday or Sunday evening, you can usually negotiate the price down at least 10 or 15% from their normal rates…
The other thing you can sometimes negotiate is “package swapping.” For instance, one venue I looked at included a pasta station during cocktail hour with the package we were looking at. I asked if they’d be able to upgrade the beverage package and get rid of the pasta instead. They said that was no problem.
Post # 9
The Bethwood in Totowa is the least expensive place I can think of that has outdoor ceremony space. I believe it’s possible to have a wedding there for under $100 per person. However, it can hold many events at once (that’s one way they keep the price down), and the decor may not be to your liking.
The Colonial Inn in Norwood is another option. It has gardens and a patio, but I don’t think they’re large enough to hold a ceremony. There is, however, a dedicated ceremony room with windows that look out onto trees.
Post # 10
I just have to laugh because that is New Jersey for you. Nothing new and it’ll never change.
Post # 11
Where in Jersey are you looking to get married? I got married at a winery, Tomasello, last year. The prices were pretty reasonable and you bought your own alcohol which winds up saving money too (and I got to have sweet tea vodka at the wedding major plus for me). We had the sorbet included 😛
they are located in hammonton. The ceremony space was small and not the nicest ever but everything else compenstated for that for me anyway.
Post # 12
@My Little Peony: Thanks, I’ll look into this!
@MyFavouriteChords: Thanks a million! I’ll look into that too.
Post # 13
Yeah apparently North/Central Jersey is the most expensive place to get married in the US. Bummer, because it definitely is not NYC!
Post # 14
Are you new to NJ? If you grewup here then the prices and rates of Central and Northern Jersey should be no shock to you. NJ is one of the most expensive places in the US live in general which would of course mean the cost of living is and everything associated with it (except the price of gas) is accordingly high. One good thing though the most of the venues in NJ everything is included so in the long run do get to save a bit because you don’t need a caterer, and venue and linens and alcohol and tableware and chairs and table etc all ordered seperately, which can add up rather quickly along with extra organizing and time.
Post # 15
I’m in South Jersey, close to Atlantic City…We decided on Blue Heron Pines Golf Club because of reasonable prices and the great location. They do outside ceremonies as well. Smithville Inn is also nice, but a little expensive. Great location though. Renault Vinery is also nice, but very pricey. I think that any Vineyard is gonna cost ya.