Post # 1
Further more, she answers a question from a mom who refused to go to her own son’s wedding over it. It’s the second question down:
I LOVED the response from Emily Yoffe. I can’t believe any mother would refuse to attend her own son’s wedding because of this, and I’m hoping that she was set straight after reading this.
Not that the son wasn’t at fault entirely, but jeez, talk about over-reacting!
Post # 3
Oops! Wrong page, guys. Correct link:
Post # 5
I can’t believe a mom would refuse to atten her own son’s wedding. RUDE.
Post # 6
Holy karp! I personally do not agree with the no-kids-allowed scene, but this reaction was pretty ridiculous!
Post # 7
Personally, I think “no kids” policies are ridiculous, but I do agree with her that the mom shouldn’t have boycotted her son’s wedding because of it!! It’s crazy what weddings can do to families.
Post # 8
We’re having a child-free wedding mostly to keep costs down, but also because our reception is in an art museum. Little fingers around priceless art leads to an evening that the parents will inevitably spend eagle-eying kids. I see absolutely nothing wrong with child-less receptions, as long as everybody is included or excluded evenly. This mom was crazy!!
Post # 9
i wish i could find a martha stewart article stating that it is ok to not have kids at a wedding. we don’t want to have kids and my mom thinks that is horrible. she told me to find out martha’s opinion and she might reconsider. I haven’t been able to find anything yet!
Post # 10
I definitely think that there are places and events that are inappropriate for children. While there are exceptions (breast-feeding mothers, kids with special needs perhaps)- there’s no reason that parents can’t be away from their kids for 4 hours during a reception.
Post # 11
@ mskalinin and PeytonL79 you say that you don’t agree with childless receptions and they are ridiculous, why do you say that? I’m not looking for a fight, just curious as to why you feel so strongly that others should not get to have the wedding of their choosing?
Post # 12
Corgi- Here is an article from Martha’s website about not inviting children and how to put it on the invite:
My mom was the opposite, she wanted NO kids at all there but we compromised to have immediate family children only.
Post # 13
I’m curious… Why do the people who think “no kids” is inappropriate feel this way?
Post # 14
@summergirl- thank you!!!
@teaadntoast- my mom had a bunch of reasons. First because she thinks weddings are “family events” and its rude to exclude any family members. Second because everyone else in our family has invited kids and she’s never heard of a wedding where kids arent invited. Third because we shouldn’t expect families to have to hire babysitters for their kids (I told her that we’d get a babysitter on-site; she told me no decent parent would leave their kid with a babysitter someone just hired for the day).
Post # 15
it always so confusing to me when people get offended that their children are not invited. i had a NO KIDS wedding and a couple of people brought their children anyway…and then commenced to complain all night about how “little joey” couldnt eat this and “little joey” didnt like that. thats why he wasnt invited.
Im throwing a party. your kids ARENT invited. if you cant bear to spend 4 hours without your kids, dont come. Whats the problem? just because you feel weddings and receptions should be “family friendly” events, doesnt mean everyone else does. my ceremony didnt start until 8 pm and my reception was VERY cocktail focused, Not appropriate, In My Humble Opinion, for kids.
and to think a MOTHER convinced her whole family to boycott because a 6 year old wasnt invited… people are so selfish.
Post # 16
I’m not saying that others shouldn’t have the weddings of their choosing, but I do think no-kids policies are taken to the extreme when the result of the policy is to, for example, exclude neices and nephews of the bride (i.e., the bride or groom’s siblings’ kids), or other children with whom the bride and/or groom have a close relationship. For example, if the bride/groom has a close friend who has children and the bride/groom personally knows and spends time with those kids – try explaining to a child who truly loves the bride/groom why they can’t attend the event.
I am admittedly a little biased because I have a daughter, and I don’t see children as the wedding-plan destroying tikes that some brides do. I’ve attended a couple of weddings with my daughter when she has also been included, and I’ve left her at home (with my ex) for a few weddings, most recently one in which I was Maid/Matron of Honor.
I think that if a couple is going to have a no kids policy that will wind up hurting the feelings of the people who they are closest to (i.e., siblings), they seriously need to reconsider that policy. To perhaps change it to – only children of family members included – or something similar.