(Closed) Dear Prudence Column “Save the Date Advice”

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I loved that response to his question!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

That was a harsh response by Prudie.  Wow!  But there is truth to that.  If you send someone a Save the Date then they need an invitation.  I wouldn’t go to their wedding if I was this person. I wouldn’t send a gift either.  I would however go on my trip since I already paid for it.  And have a good time elsewhere!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

OMG I love the response!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I thought the couple showed extremely poor etiquette in this situation…so I kind of agreed with the harsh tone.  The whole point of Save the Dates is to request that people, well, save the date.  We were pretty judicious with ours.  We def. sent fewer STD’s than invitations.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think the response is a good one-what the bride and groom did was wrong, rude, classless, and trashy. They should have called and explained themselves-which would have been embarrassing and maybe a little rude-but just not doing anything is really low and I would feel horrible if I were the "guest" involved.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

"sack cloth and ashes"!  What a great advice column!!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I totally agree with this response. I think Save-The-Date Cards are basically an invitation (why else would you ask them to save the date?). So the couple basically just uninvited them — and everybody can agree, that’s poor etiquette.

Ms. Prudence is extremely harsh when it comes to wedding etiquette because she’s extremely harsh about weddings. She did not have a wedding herself and seems ever so slightly anti-wedding… particularly against the wedding industry itself. She complains about brides again in this same article, in an unrelated question. 
 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Daaaaamn. Prudie lays down the law. ^_^

Yeah it’s harsh. but warranted. I hope the person who wrote in does go on a nice vacay since she already bought the tickets. And even though we know so little, just what the column says, the bride and groom seem pretty selfish and I hope Left Out in the Cold doesn’t hold her breath for an apology. 😛

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