- 8 years ago
I’m so sorry to hear about your cat. I don’t have any pets right now (just getting too old to care for them – prefer to live without them for now), but I used to have as many as 5 cats at a time. Plus birds, chickkens and a rabbit. All got excellent care. Anyway, back to your story. I’m heartbroken over what happened and can honestly understand your sadness and anger at your family for abandoning your poor kitty in the great somewhere-on-earth. My advice: Please take some time to mourn this terrible happening. What you’re feeling is probably like suddenly hearing about a dear friend who was suddenly injured in a car accident or (much worse!) died. We love our pets like our own children and Mom should have had more love for the life of your elderly cat than that. However, please don’t hold it against her forever, as some have suggested. As long as you know the truth now, don’t try to force her to say anything different, but have a heart-to-heart talk with your mother, assuring her that you do know the truth and that she has made you very upset. Actually, no matter how she disposed of the cat, theagreement was she would care for the cat until you were able to do so yourself and she didn’t stick to her part of it. The Bible says it’t better to never vow at all than to vow and not pay.
Can you think of a way Mom could compensate you in some way for this unspeakable act? If not, then, just give this situation some time to gently pass. You may try to search for the cat, but chances are, if he was declawed and sick, he may not be alive right now, so unfortunately, your chances of finding him are quite slim. Please don’t think I’m being cruel, but I just don’t want anything to ruin your relationship with your dear mother who raised you from birth and made this one BIG mistake! We are all imperfect and she just didn’t have the same deep love for the cat as you. The cat probably did a “huge one” in some favorite part of her house, and in a fit of anger, she acted spontaneously and got rid of it like that. If she only took a moment to calm down – or if she just knew how much this would have hurt you, I’m sure she would have had a different plan of action altogether. Yes, she could have given it to a shelter or something instead of abandoning it in his condition, but this is something very difficult – if not impossible – to correct. So my advice is to mourn your cat’s loss and yes, anger is what you should feel for Mom right now, but don’t let it last. Writing here about it has helped you to vent your feelings, so very good action here. But one of these days, your mom will need you as she gets older and she’d want you by her side, just as I’m by my mom’s side right now (she’s in her 90s). We’ll all be in this position someday. Remember, LOVE is the key! I hope something here helps you to feel better.