(Closed) Death, bridesmaids, wedding planning

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 46
927 posts
Busy bee

svwedding:  I understand what you mean. I suppose it’s just like I said, send texts letting her know that you’re thinking of her. Call her if she is up for it. Maybe in another txt ask about the baby. She might reply with things you can reply to and then you go from there. You’re a good friend, so as long as you stay in touch, let her know you care, don’t talk too much about the wedding, and allow the friendship to evolve with your friend (ie. don’t expect it or her to be the same necessarily), then I think you’ll be fine. Best wishes. 

Post # 47
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

svwedding:  thats great to hear, you are doing everything she needs of you. You cant help her overcome the grief, she needs to do that on her own, but she knows you are there for her. follow her lead, if she demands wedding stuff, talk about wedding stuff. If she starts texting you about mundane stuff, text back (and every now and then start the conversation of mundane stuff). It seems like shes opening the door.

 It seems already like she wants to move forward which means while shes still sad, shes out of the initial shock. This is good. She will now go thru a whole host of other emotions, as she moves on. from what you say, you have so far already been doing everything you need to do for your friend, so just keep doing it. time will bring back normal. 

Post # 48
1430 posts
Bumble bee

svwedding:  I wouldn’t bring up the wedding at all. Honestly, find someone else to help, hire a wedding planner. Your wedding is the very last thing she needs to be concerned with right now. Especially with her being pregnant.  My best friends sibling commited suicide and there are so many emotions that go along with it. It is very up and down. Just be there for her.  Text her and let her know you are here for her. Its ok to say.. ” I don’t have any words to comfort you but just know that I love you and am here for you.” Trying to find the “right” words end up hurting or upsetting the person grieving more.  Also, check in periodically.  A lot of people are there for you before the funeral but after its over they move on and forget that the family is still grieving.

Post # 51
284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

svwedding:  you hit the nail on the head really thank you for being a great friend.

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