(Closed) Death on wedding day.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2006

I’m so sorry for your loss and for how things turned out. We didn’t have the same thing happen to us but my grandma was diagnosed witn stage 3 colon cancer while we were on our honeymoon. My mom was home suffering while we were enjoying ourselves in Turks and caicos. When she picked us up from the airport we had to drop her off at the hospital to be with my grandma. It felt surreal too. Then 3 weeks from our wedding date, my grandfather who gave me away at my wedding died suddenly at home. I was at my mom’s house that evening and I was there when she found him in his room. It was all VERY traumatic and it felt like a dream. We have been married 9 years and I still tear up about it all. I cannot imagine if it had happened during our wedding but both events were so intertwined with it that it felt like it was.

im so sorry for you and your family. in time it’ll get easier to remember the good memories of the day. Sending you hugs!

Post # 18
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Sugar Beekeeper

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Rugla:  How awful for you and your parents  – it sounds like you handled it wonderfully I think, and i admire you for that.

I don’t admire whoever it was who passed the information to you DURING your wedding…..waiting till after the reception  would have been so much more sensitive. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry for your loss. My husband’s uncle died two weeks before our wedding day. While this is definitely not as hard as losing someone the exact day of the ceremony, I definitely know how difficult that was for him and his family. I can’t imagine what it would have been like if we had received the news on the day of the wedding — he had been sick for awhile, so we knew it was a possibility in the months leading up to the wedding. 

Sending thoughts of comfort to you and your family. I’m glad a little distance from the day has helped you see the positive points of the day. I’m sure your grandmother would’ve wanted you to find joy in your big day. 

Post # 21
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Sugar Beekeeper

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Rugla:  Oh dear , your poor dad,  he probably would have done everything  he could to keep it from you till the day after . So sad all round . And I reiterate my feeling that you have done really really   well and generously by everybody .

Perhaps a vow renewal ceremony next year , or something  like that , where you could relive your  good parts and remember your grandma  with less piercing   pain?

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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Rugla:  I am sorry for your loss.  We also had a death on our wedding day, my step brother.  He was not able to attend the wedding (not for any reason specific) and his death was a complete shock.  His mom and my aunt ended up flying home before my ceremony.  Everyone hid it from me until they couldn’t anymore because I kept asking where people were.  I had a mini meltdown and cried with my dad then we went on to finish the wedding as I know he would have wanted.

It sure makes for a conflicting time, to be so happy you are married but then so sad for losing someone the same day. 

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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Rugla:  Thank you. Our day did end up beautiful and everyone had a good time. Just every time I think of my wedding now he is the very next thought. 

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