Post # 1
So my FIL’s and I are having a debate over how to serve the reception dinner (FI doesn’t care either way). I want a buffet and they prefer plated.
My reasons for wanting a buffet:
1. My guests can get as little or as much as they want and 2nds if needed
2. We can serve a better variety of options with this route
The FIL’s want plated because they feel that a buffet doesn’t look classy and will clash with our very formal wedding. Among this reason they want plated because:
1. They don’t want to stand in line for food
2. They don’t like the idea of other people breathing or touching their food
I should add that the plated vs buffet option is an extra $10/pp that THEY are willing to pay.
I wanted to get the opinion of my bees. What do you prefer? Plated or Buffet. Would you mind stating your reason below?
Post # 3
I prefer plated like your Future In-Laws. I would agree that with your very formal wedding a plated dinner is a better fit.
Post # 4
I preferred plated so that’s what we went with. My experience with buffets is that there’s NEVER enough food, plus you have to leave your personal belongings (purse) while you go get your food. I also HATE waiting in line. I’d rather wait and chat with the people at my table. And there is the formal thing as well.
Our buffet options were also $20 a person more than plated. Weird.
Post # 5
I think it depends on the formality of your wedding and the size of the guest list.
For a very formal occasion, plated does look nicer. People won’t have to stand in line or walk in high heels with a plate full of food.
For a smaller, less formal wedding, buffet is perfectly fine. I would only worry about a buffet line if there are a large number of people trying to get food at the same time.
Another option that might work would be family style dining. Would that be an acceptable compromise?
Post # 6
I personally like buffets, but if they’re THAT concerned with plated I would probably cave.
Post # 7
I chose buffet because I’m partial (I’m having one, haha). However, my wedding is much more of a casual scenario. A plated dinner MIGHT be better if you are having a very formal wedding.
Have you thought about “Family Style”? Where people stay at their seats, but the servers come around with a fancy cart and put bowls/plates on each table for the guests to serve themselves from so they don’t have to get up. There is an appetizer round, dinner round, and you can even have dessert if you like. This way, you can have the slightly wider range of a buffet, but not as much of the casual “getting up and walking around” it owuld require of the guests.
Overall, I think go with whatever YOU guys would prefer, and what you feel the guests you invited would rather have. Don’t get bullied by the FILs! lol
Post # 8
I prefer plated, mainly for the reasons state above.
Post # 9
Plated is much more formal. If you are having a formal wedding, have a plated meal…
Buffets are more appropriate for a casual wedding In My Humble Opinion.
Post # 10
We are doing family style – it’s more like a sit down buffet. More choices than a plated meal but no one has to serve themselves or balance plates while walking or anything like that.
Plus everyone eats at the same time.
Post # 11
I think it depends on the number of people attending. A buffet with 200 people is a bad idea unless there are two buffet tables. It takes forever for people to get through and eat.
I dont care which as a guest, but plated does feel more formal and depending on the venue you may want to match the formality of it.
Post # 12
I really am not a fan of buffet weddings. I have only been to one. Other than the formal v casual comments, a buffet draws up a huge line, it detracts from people just socializing as they choose to. Plus I dont like the idea of not everyone eating at the same time
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I strongly dislike buffets for numerous reasons.
1. 100+ people and their germs passing over my food
2. A full plate of food + me in high heels + expensive dress= disaster waiting to happen
3. Waiting in line makes me cranky
4. More likely to end up with cold food. Yuck.
Post # 14
I did a buffet for the exact reasons you stated. I also think you end up getting your food faster, as most venues don’t really have enough wait staff to get a plated meal out quickly, so some tables will have to wait quite a while to get theirs. I was at a wedding with plated meal a couple weeks ago, and my halibut tasted like crap so I didn’t eat it. That meant that I only got a few bites of risotto and some spinach for dinner, because that’s all that was on my plate and I didn’t have any option to get more food.
No wonder I ended up so drunk!
Post # 15
Personally, I hate buffet weddings. I don’t like standing in line to get food, I don’t like carrying my food around to tables, and generally everything I want to eat usually runs out first. I tend to spill, so I’d rather someone come, put a plate down in front of me, and leave me to eat, rather than me having to walk around to get it. Plus, buffets take forever.
Post # 16
We’re going with a buffet because we’re not doing a traditional protein, starch, veggie menu.
If we had gone traditional menu, we would have gone plated.