(Closed) Debating the first look

posted 8 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We did a first look an dI’m glad.  We got a lot of time to take pictures together before the wedding (and got most of my favorite ones there), we had time alone (which we didn’t have any after that), and the ‘moment’ walking down the aisle was still special (I only saw him and I couldn’t hear anything or breathe lol).

Post # 4
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438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

As of now we’re planning to do a first look.  I wouldn’t let family members make that decision for you.  A first look is a very intimate moment between the two of you.  Don’t let family tell you what to do! If you and your Fiance want to do a first look, go for it!

Post # 5
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1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We did a first look too and it is one of my most treasured memories of the day.

He fell apart when he saw me and needed a bout 10 minutes to get himself together. It was such an amazing moment and it was mostly private (except for the photographer and my mother). I’m so glad we had that moment to ourselves.

Plus, we got all the family portraits out of the way and were able to enjoy a lot more of our reception.

Post # 6
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m not either, lol, but I’m going to comment anyway!

Have you asked your Fiance about it? The first time I contemplated a “first look”, I asked Fiance and he said “No way! I want to see you first when you’re walking down to be my wife.” So that settled that LOL.

Either way, you will have a first look. Whether its just the 2 of you, or with your family, it will be the First Look. Your photographer will capture the faces and emotions the same. With one, you’ll have the chance to get some pictures done before the wedding (but then there’s always the question of if you should/will wear your wedding band before you’re married for the pics) and have a chance to talk face to face immediately before you’re wed. With the other, you can talk on the phone, but your first words face to face will be your vows.

😀

Post # 7
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think every bride debates the same exact question. Practically… a first look makes a ton of sense. But seeing me at the head of the aisle is the thing my Fiance is most looking forward to and no amount of praciticality is going to make it ok for him to see me sooner in his eyes. So, we’re not doing one and we’ll deal!

Post # 8
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

we are doing a first look because i don’t see what difference it makes if his look is during or before the ceremony. it will give us a private moment before we end up being around 150 people for the rest of the day. 

Post # 10
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1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We didn’t do a first look.

That’s because I didn’t and still don’t know anything about wedding trends. So the debate didn’t take place.

However, I must say that seeing his face when he saw me for the first time walking down the aisle was just priceless. That moment was captured in pictures and our guests got to witness that. It was just sooo special.

Our ceremony was the first time we say each other the day of our wedding and I can’t imagine it being any other way.

To each his own though. I think that no matter what you do, your wedding day will be very special, and I never heard someone regret their choice, whatever it was.

Post # 11
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745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

for me it was an emotional decision…I wanted that special moment by ourselves…I love my family but I didn’t want to end up crying (of course out of happiness) in front of 200 people as I walked down the aisle.

We did all of our photos before the wedding, including family pictures, so we were able to enjoy the entire evening including cocktails.

Post # 13
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Whats wrong with crying at your own wedding ceremony? My brother and his fiance both cried at their ceremony and I thought that it was beautiful. It felt like a really authentic and important moment. 

Post # 14
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745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

there’s nothing wrong with crying..I had small crying moments, but I didn’t want that big blubbering mess that I knew I was going to turn into in front of people.  My sister walked down the aisle at her wedding sobbing – authentic, yes…was she happy about it, not by any means.

I just know how my own emotions work and what I would be like, and I didn’t want that in front of everyone.

either way – no matter what choice is made the best investment for makeup was in good quality waterproof mascara!! Cool

Post # 15
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

@CorgiTales: I agree. I love seeing the grooms face when he first sees his bride, so I’d be a little bummed I wasn’t important enough to see :/

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