(Closed) Debating the first look

posted 11 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

We’re not doing a first look – simply because my Fiance doesn’t want to.  He wont even look at me in a wedding dress (not THE wedding dress, just other ones for idea).  He wants that moment when I walk down the isle.

However, I don’t see anything wrong with a first look either!  Some ppl are stuck in their traditional ways, but its not their wedding.  Its YOURS, for YOU to remember, and for YOU to enjoy.  So, if you want to enjoy the cocktail hour with your guests, then have the first look so you can!!

After all, you didn’t go through all this effort of planning to not ENJOY the day, right?!  πŸ™‚ 

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@UpstateCait: thanks for the compliment! yay for first looks!

i wanted to add that we did out FL alone and did a few shots of the two of us around the lobby and then we went upstairs and joined the rest of the Bridal Party and did all the Bridal Party and family pics then. we didn’t take any during out cocktail hour (we still missed a chunk of it because in Jewish tradition, you spend 15 minutes or so alone with each other right after the ceremony, but that’s a different story).

Post # 36
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

We didn’t do a first look. Neither of us wanted to see each other before I walked down the aisle. I loved seeing him standing up there smiling at me and he loved seeing me for the first time walk down the aisle smiling at him. That was my favorite part of the wedding ceremony and it didn’t matter if I would cry (I didn’t, although I thought I would!!). I’ll never forget seeing him up front as I walked down the aisle. πŸ™‚

But many people love doing the first look. Do whatever is right for you two. As somebody mentioned aboved, I’ve never heard anyone regret their decision-whatever that may be. πŸ™‚

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re planning on doing a first look! I think they’re very romantic and have potential for some amazing pictures. I don’t think it would take away from seeing you walk down the isle either πŸ™‚

Post # 38
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1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We’re doing one; If im paying thousands of dollars for photos Im getting as many photos as physically possible.

Post # 39
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1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

maybe it’s because I’m from Canada, or because I have only been to two weddings in my life, but what the heck is a first look?? looks like i need to brush up on wedding lingo before i actually have one next fall!

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My mom almost freaked when I said I wanted to do all my pictures before the ceremony. “Thats not how I did it in 1968, when I got married” LOL I hate weddings that have the long lag time between ceremony and reception.  I’ve been to weddings when they had 4 hours between them.  I went home and took a nap.  I love the idea of a first look, I love the idea seeing each other first.  I think that its part of the wedding fantasy on how you want to be looked at during that special moment.

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

We did a first look also and it was amazing. It was the only time during the day when we got to be alone. I highly recommend it, it was perfect and then we got to enjoy all of the things we so carefully planned instead of being stuck taking pics. Plus your pictures are better because your makeup and hair are fresh.

Post # 43
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@Bostonsmom: I think the first look is a very new trend. I had NEVER heard of this until I found weddingbee – even after I had already been researching weddings for 5 months! And I have a couple of engaged friends who Ive asked if theyre doing a first look and they look at me like I have two heads. They have no clue whatIm talking about AND they dont understand why anyone would want to see or be seen before the ceremony. Then I explain that the main point is to help with the timeline of photographs and they realize how it could be helpful. So dont worry, you are not behind on your wedding lingo because I really dont think the majority of people have ever heard of this!

We did not do a first look and I am glad because the anticipation of walking down the aisle was so heightened and I was so giddy. The entire ceremony it felt like it was just me and my husband all alone, holding each others hands and looking at one another. It was awesome! We then had almost an hour of photographs for just the two of us so we still got all the pictures that we would have if we did a first look anyways. I have never been to a wedding where the couple attends their cocktail hour (because usually this is the time that the photos are being taken) so I didnt really care about attending ours except missing out on the food (which we tasted at our tasting anyways) To each their own though!

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

WE did a first look and i dont regret it. It allows you to see your husband to bes face, but then walk up to him and give him a huge hug and kiss!!! you cant do that at the church!! πŸ™‚

 

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Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We had no choice- because of the timing of the ceremony, we had to get all our pics done beforehand. It turned out to be a really sweet moment, and we LOVED doing our first look. Unfortunately, I don’t have one of the first kiss, but I have these few pics of the moment in general…

 

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

it depends on how important pictures are to you. if you want more time for pictures of the two of you alone where you arent rushed, go for the first look. πŸ™‚

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