(Closed) Debating whether or not to get married on the other side of the country. Help!

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
4038 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@funkybutton:  

Not to mention all the other little details…. I feel like when picking out decorations and flowers I actually want to see them in person before I ok them! I basically want to see every small detail in person, maybe that’s crazy, but I don’t want any suprises and I don’t trust my parents to make those choices for me. 

If this is how you want it, DON’T get married across the country.  I’m planning a wedding in Scotland and planning from DC. You have to trust people there and the Internet. I haven’t seen anything in person (I’ve seen the venue now but after we booked it). I’ve not met the florist or the photographer and I just have to trust the Internet and the reviews. 

Post # 4
Hostess
3369 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

First off, welcome to Weddingbee! So glad to have you!

 

My first initial thought to this was, “It’s your wedding, have it wherever the heck you want!” However, after reading your post I can’t help but feel like a wedding closer to home would be a wiser choice.

 

You mentioned that you’re the type of person who wants to see the decorations in person before you okay them, which I totally understand! I’m the same way! However, when you are planning a Destination Wedding, that’s not the case. As Glasgowbound stated, you have to leave your trust in other people. Not just friends or family, strangers over the internet. Not saying that’s a bad thing, but if you want total control it will drive you up the wall. 

 

Ultimately, the choice is yours. However, based on what you said it sounds like you are better off having a wedding right where you are in California. In fact, you said you want a smaller wedding? Why not have an intimate beach wedding! Can you say GORGEOUS?! And then you get all of the comforts of home and not having to worry about relying on other people. You’re in control as long as you stay at home. 

 

Remember, the people who really want to be at your wedding will find a way to get there. Try not to worry about that factor, and focus on creating your dream wedding day. πŸ™‚ 

 

Post # 5
Member
1032 posts
Bumble bee

Whoa. I think we’re twins. My Fiance and I are both originally from (different parts of) NY. We met in CA, and have been living out here for 6 years. But NONE of our family lives out here… and it would seem like such a hassle to try and get them to fly out here. In fact, I know none of them would. Between that, and the fact that having a wedding in CA would be ridiculously expensive, we decided to have our wedding back in my hometown in NY.

 

My venue is taken care of, luckily, because my aunt owns a bed and breakfast. As for everything else…

 

What I’m planning on doing, is going home for 1 week this summer, and banging everything out; tent/tables/chairs rental, DJ and florist. I’m calling the restaurant I want to cater our wedding, and doing that over the phone, because they have a menu online so I don’t need to physically be there for that part. Same with photographer; most have websites so communicating via email is good enough. 

 

For all of the little details… if you have the money, hire a wedding coordinator. I don’t have the money, so basically, I’m going to be sending all of my DIY decor to my mom. A week before our wedding, the Fiance and I are flying out, and will be assembling all decor (chalkboard signs, candy table, centerpieces – not the flower parts though). 

 

But again, at the end of the day, it’s YOUR wedding. If you want to have it in CA, that’s fine. πŸ™‚ 

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