(Closed) Debbie Downer?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
46413 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

People hear what they want to hear and often it’s not what was said.

I think she wanted to hear you say”What a great idea! People will love that” Let me know how I can help. Do you want me to do some research on how we can make that happen?

Post # 5
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

For me, it depends on what it is.  If I mention what I am doing then I don’t want any suggestions or comments other than it’s awesome.  If I state “what do you think” or “how does this sound” then it’s ok for a suggestion.  

However, I wanted Rice Krispy cakes for favors and I mentioned this to a group of ladies.  They all chimed in, albeit nicely, that it probably wouldn’t be very classy for my wedding or very practical to make that many.  One was even a lady I had never met!  I did not get upset though.  If I wanted the cakes then I was going to have them despite their comments.  If she wants it, she needs to own it however she wants to do it

Is it likely she was fine but your Mother-In-Law spoke up unwarranted?  Although they are family now, it’s never really like your own family you know?

Another however, you were in no way rude or crapping all over the wedding.  Which one of the two is so sensitive?  

Post # 6
31 posts

I think she’ll be greatful to find out an important piece of information like that. If I was a guest and was caught with something illegal that was given to me, I would be SOOOOO angry! I think it was nice of you to even bring that up, and it’s not like you even shot it down, you gave her a safer and legal alternative to her idea. She needs to get over it and your Mother-In-Law needs to realize her kids can handle their own battles and step back.

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