- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013 - UK
Bit of background… I have a bridesmaidzilla who has made my life really ******* difficult ever since I got engaged. Long story. She has also rejected every Bridesmaid or Best Man dress I have shown her, which has led to my spending almost a year looking for something suitable that she likes. When I asked her to pick something she liked, it was either a “Big Fat Gypsy” dress or a “sexy witch” thing that looked like a halloween costume and came with a headband with cat ears (she was totally excited about the headband, too, and said all the BMs should wear them). However, she also finished each criticism of my choices with “but just pick whatever… it’s your wedding and we’re here to help!”.
Finally, with the wedding looming, I called her bluff and picked this, which is the fave of all the other girls: http://www.divacatwalk.com/collections/sleeveless-dresses/gabriella-dress/33/701
The others just all told me that she would never pick anything, and if she did then it probably wouldn’t suit anyone else, so I negotiated a deal for 4 of these, because this is way above budget. Even with the deal, I can only just manage it. But this is a very flattering dress because of the ruching and the way it sort of sucks you in. It’s like wearing magic knickers!
Bridesmaidzilla, who lives miles away and is the only one who wouldn’t be able to try this on, then suddenly went silent on FB, having been really vocal before. When I asked her if she was a large or a small UK size 12 (US 8) she said something like “actually, in store X I’m an 8 and in store Y I’m an 18” which is total ****, and then she also said something like “it also depends on the cut what I’m wearing. If I’m wearing a tightly fitted dress, I’m bigger, which is why I don’t wear fitted skirts”. She finished this with “honestly, I know I’m being a bit difficult. I can step down if you want.” Translation: I hate that dress and I’m not wearing it. You should have found someting better (ladies, I’ve tried for almost a year to get something in that colour with a full skirt that didn’t cost the earth. It doesn’t exist).
I skimmed over this politely, but the more I think about it, the more it would make my life so much easier in the long run. So…how to word a polite email/message? I want to make her feel like it was her decision… I also have to do it fast, so I can replace her with someone who is easier to get along with!