Post # 1
So I am watching father of the bride 2 and in the beginning it is suggested that the parents hire a planner (the really expensive wedding planning from the first movie) and throw a lavish party going into debt for the baby shower.
This got me thinking, do people go into massive debt for baby showers. Now I know people put big ticket items on credit sometimes like the crib, carseat, other furniture, etc. but just to throw the shower? I know this is all based off of a ridiculous movie, but does this really happen.
I know more people go into debt for their wedding every day, but I though baby showers will smaller and more intimate and didn’t require as much.
Post # 3
I’ve never been to anything but a casual, laid back, baby shower. I’d be interested in hearing if anyone has been to a lavish one.
Post # 4
actually yes! i’m throwing one this weekend and it got out of hand really fast. i was planning on doing something at my house (we have a big backyard and a pretty big house) but once i got the guest list and they decided to turn it into a joint shower it got HUGE! close to 100 people. YIKES-so i ended up having to rent a venue.
two of her other friends offered to help. and once i asked them to start pitching in they told me they couldnt afford it. (i asked one to do the drinks, and the other to pick up balloons!) Thankfully my friends dad is giving me some money. but the whole thing will end up costing me 500 bucks. Not exactly the small shower i thought i signed up for.
but i do love my friend and she is so grateful for it. so it makes it not as bad! But i wasnt planning on spending that much and some of it’s going to have to go on a card until next payday!
maybe 500 isnt the debt you were talking about but it is way more than i was looking to spend on a shower.
Post # 5
This won’t answer your question at all, but Father of the Bride (the first one) pissed me off. I can’t stand the daughter. Dad goes into massive amounts of debt throwing her ridiculously over the top wedding and she almost calls it off because her fiance gave her a blender.
That shit would NOT fly with my parents let me tell you.
Post # 6
I havent been to many, but I havent heard of anything super extravagent either. This may sound weird, but my lower income friends are the ones who have had babies already and my higher income friends have not (just getting married) so maybe that will change in the next few years? I dont know.
I can almost imagine one sister of a friend going into debt. She planned an extravagant bachlorette in Vegas that had me apalled, and I attended! She got a call about her bank account being overdrawn while we were there.
Post # 7
@KatyElle:I totally know what you are saying. I calcualted it one day because I was bored and he spent over 100 grand on that wedding. I mean come on!
Hell, I’d love a blender, I love smoothies.
Post # 8
Well, I didn’t think we had extravagant showers until I read that a previous poster thougth spending $500 for 100 guests was a lot. In my area it’s totally the norm to have a baby shower at a restaurant and a guest list of 40-50 people. My shower will be about 50 people at a local restaurant at about $10 per person for food and drink. And that’s considered a really good price! That’s not including dessert, favors and decorations. Will my parents go into debt for it, no, but I guess to some it may seem like it’s over the top.
Post # 9
I lived in New York for awhile and they are HUGE on doing big, lavish baby showers there. And you know how most showers are maybe 2-3 hours long? Well in NY they’re like 5-6 hours long! They always have them at a restaurant, cafe, or venue of some sort (they have a ton of cute “tea shops” they will host baby showers), and then invite everyone they know. It’s pretty extravagant!
Now that I’m back in the midwest, it’s not like that. I’ve never been to a shower that’s not at someone’s home, I just hosted my sister’s baby shower and I set a budget of about $200 and spent that, but my SIL was co-hosting with me, and chipped in an addition $100-$150. I figured that was low-key for a shower, we only paid for decor (very litte), food, invites, prizes etc.. But I thought that was pretty low budget for a shower.
Post # 10
Pretty much every shower (wedding and baby) I’ve ever attended has been a low-key affair at somebody’s home. Many of these hosts could have afforded something more lavish, it’s just not really done in my circle.
Post # 11
Oh, it can happen. Trust me!
I co-hosted my FSIL’s baby shower a few months ago and just my portion cost upwards of $500 (though this was including her gift). I’m not sure how much my Future Mother-In-Law spent but I know for a fact that it was more than me. She bought $75 cupcake wrappers for god sakes! I didn’t go into any debt for it (we don’t believe in unnecessary debt so I would never spend more than I had) but I guarantee that my Future Mother-In-Law did. While it was an awesome baby shower, if I had to do it again I would NEVER spend as much money as I did, especially considering we’re getting married just a few months later.
ETA: The shower was held at my FIL’s house which we thought would cut down on some of the cost but boyyy were we wrong.
Post # 12
Most of the showers I’ve attended have been low key affairs in peoples homes, but Ididnt attend one that was in a rented space and had more a wedding reception feel to it. It didnt really feel like a shower