(Closed) deceased loved ones at your ceremony

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’ve been to Catholic ceremonies where the deceased have been named during the part where people respond “Lord, Hear Our Prayer”.  The reader would say “In memory of the Bride’s grandfather, John Doe, and the Groom’s grandmother, Jane X, and those who are not with us today to share in our joy, we pray to the Lord …” 

I have never seen a seat reserved or a photo where the person should be sitting.  For me, personally, it would be extremely difficult/painful to see a photo of my deceased family member where s/he should be sitting.  However, I don’t know your Fiance and how he would take it if that were done. 

I think you need to talk to him about his wishes since this is his father.

Good luck and sorry for the loss.  

Post # 5
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962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have a friend recently married who left a bouquet on a seat in the front row in honor of his mother, so the single rose idea seems very appropriate.

To honor our deceased family members (my father, all of our grandparents, a handful of friends) we did a candle lighting during the ceremony and had a little poem we read.  We didn’t say any specific names…  we figured not only would the people attending know who we were honoring because they were our close family and friends, but this way it could honor any of those people’s loved ones too.

 

Post # 6
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18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I didn’t do anything as a remembrance to my mother at our wedding.  Make sure that this is what your Fiance really wants.

Post # 7
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104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I did this at our wedding for my father. I had a single rose that was detached from my bouquet and when I reached the end of the aisle I placed the rose on the empty seat next to where my mother was sitting. Our officiant said during the ceremony in memory of loved ones who passed and brought up the rose being in rememberance of him. At our wedding reception on the cake table was a picture of him and I and the rose that was placed on the seat. Everyone was very touched at how much he was apart of the wedding even if he was only there in spirit.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

I like VagabondGurls idea!  We lit a memorial candle together and had the names of our loved ones who had passed read aloud.  Then, a poem was read in their honor.  Lastly, the officiant also gave everyone a moment of silence to pray. 

Definitely chat with your fiance’ and his Mom to see how they’d like for him to be honored.  Sorry for your loss. 

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