Post # 1
Hi Ladies, I need some help. I am getting married in less then 4 months and my Future Mother-In-Law just passed away last week. I really want to do something special to honor her at the ceremony. I plan on having something in the program but I am not sure what else to do. I’ve read about the rose on a chair thing but I think that might be too much for his dad to handle as then no one would be sitting next to him and he might need someone there. Does anyone have any other ideas? Or have gone through a loss so close to the wedding? Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thank you.
Post # 3
My older brother died a two weeks before my younger brother’s wedding. They added his name during the Prayer of the Faithful. I don’t know if your Catholic or not but maybe you could add a prayer during it or something like that?
Post # 4
You could do a memory candle
Post # 5
Is there something she would have done that you can do in her honor?
Our favors will pay homage to my dad. He always put a gold dollar in the poor box at church when he went to Mass. Our guests will be given a dollar and be invited to do the same thing.
DF’s father passed away a year ago and I haven’t figured out what to do for him, but I have a feeling it will be tied to a song or dance at the reception. Something upbeat though, not a cry your eyes out moment.
I agree with having someone else sit next to Future Father-In-Law. I asked my mom who she wanted to escort her and she chose my godfather. She’d rather do that than walk down the aisle alone.
Post # 6
FI’s mom passed away 2 years ago and I let him decide how he wants to remember her at our wedding. He decided not to do the empty seat, since that is pretty emotional. We are doing a poem/picture in the program, and in lieu of favors, donating to 2 places that would have been special to her. We also might do a donation registry.
He feels that doing anymore than that might turn our wedding into another memorial for his mother so we are trying to keep it low key. However, I am hoping he will want us to use some of her favorite music, etc. throughout the day and I am going to try to put some of her favorite flowers either in the center pieces or my bouquet.
How does your Fiance feel? Ask him what he would like to do. I would wait a little while, though, since it’s only been a week and this is a really hard time. I’m sorry you are going through this, it is really difficult.
Post # 7
@Lindsey2005: These past two years haven’t been the best for me, I lost my dad, then my grandfather, and then my grandmother last month. So I have decided to do a memorial table with their pictures, candles and maybe a poem written. Just saw I know they are there, watching us.
Post # 8
I like the PP’s idea of a table of photos. That would be a beautiful and semi-suttle way to honor her. Or, if it wouldn’t be too emotional. You could always colaberate with other family members and make a video of her to share on a drop down screen at the reception. A wedding I went to last year that had a video playing of the father of the bride and bride. It was footage of her growing up and them playing. It was very sweet. My friend and her father bawled the whole time…along with all of us guests. lol. It was a very nice touch. However with it being so recent, that may not be a great suggestion. Just an idea though. Good luck darlin!